Originally Posted by barbara goodwin
That is a under statement! We ve been together almost 5 yrs now and he has never been must for sex. We do not make love. I don't anyway. He would rather sleep or just complain that he s tired from work. At 32 give me a break. He said he is shy, I say he s full of it. I made him see a urologist had some blood work done and Nothing is wrong with him! Foreplay, what's that? He does not do it, at all. I use to blow him before we did it but I said the hello with it and stopped that. He has good equipment but in my opinion he does not know how to use it properly. Can u help?
Sorry to tell you but yes you can be that tired from work.......even at 32. And not just from physical exhaustion...but from stress from dealing with one idiot after another..to not knowing if you will get laid off particularly the last several years.
Also....just a bit of advice from a guy...if you happen to be getting in his face with the attitude I read in your post.....I'm not surprised he shut down on you.
Combine that with the fact that he didn't have a strong drive before.....(your words) its not a stretch to see how this can happen.
Didn't you recognise he was like this before or did it just take five years to come to this realization.
Much the same thing can be argued with women who have the same issues....except that its even easier for women to perform when their hearts not in it. A guy has to rise to the occasion (pun intended).