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i'm a 20 yr old female whose had 5 sex partners in the last one and a half yrs never at the same time tho...i dnt practice promiscuity but it's just that everytime i find a guy i think i can settle down wit an things get sexual after awhile there's always sumting an the relationship doesnt work out. do u think this is really bad???? the number of persons dat is
a number is just a number and people who judge because of it are not worth time....i am not saying to go sleep with whoever, just be careful and use protection when you do decide that the time is right. as for 5 guys...thats you business. and who are we to say if its bad. ask yourself this...do i feel ive done a bad thing? and youll have you answer!
I do not mean to judge by anything that I say, but am saying these words to you out of wisdom judgement I have figured out for myself. One thing to keep in mind is that whether you realize it or not, we ALL spiritually bond with people that we share ourselves with. You bond both emotionally and spiritually without even realizing that you do. If you do this, it makes it hard to have friendships unless you have established this before the act was followed through. Think about every time you had a friendship with the other sex and didn't cross that line. If you were dating someone you hadn't slept with, it was simple to break up and leave as friends. This is because there was no bond made together. With every person you bond with, it makes it harder to bond with the partner you are supposed to be with. Because when you finally find that person, you always seem to regret the "past". This is because you care about the person you are currently with. I understand that we do not live in a perfect world, but that does not mean we cannot strive for it. The biggest tragedy in life is NOT learning from our mistakes. Because Lord knows, I've made my share.
Well, all thats happening is you are having sex before you find out if there will be a relationship. Its your choice if you wish to do this as you are an adult, but keep in mind as was said earlier you will get a reputation.
You don't have to totally abstain, just wait a few months after dating to take it to the next level. Likely you will sleep with fewer men but have a higher quality when you do.
What I caught from that is that you are looking for someone to share your life with and it does not pan out. Well, life is full of trials like this.
You will probably have many more short relationships while learning for yourself what qualities you are looking for in the right man. While on this search, just make certain that you stay healthy.. which means, by all means 'safe sex'. You don't want to have to regret it later.
Your choice in men will also change as you grow as this is part of learning who you are and what you want.
I would not worry about the 'count', it's that quality that counts, and truthfully until Mr Right comes along, a lot of us women have lost count... That does not make us less respectful. What counts here is an healthy attitude toward ones self.
Relax, it doesn't sound like your jumping in bed with every guy that says hi to you. Your getting to know the guy first or at least you think you know him before you sleep with him. The only problem i can see is your need to find yourself so you know what your looking for in a Man before you pick your Mr. Right and he becomes your Mr. Wrong. Your young and it takes time to know what you want from life. Each time you find that special Guy your learning a little more about yourself and each time you crash your also learning.
Don't look at it like your sleeping with a lot of guys, your just learning what is going to make you happy so you will know who your Mr. Right is when you find him. If you feel like your having sex to quickly then slow it down. Don't give him what he wants until you find out more about the real person.
Just remember all Men and i mean all Men think with their lower head in the first part of a relationship more then they do their upper one. IM an Old Fart and i know i do hehehe, Being older and more mature just means i have learned how to control my lower head better then the younger less experienced Men, but when all said and done we all still let our lower head take over at times. They will say or do almost to make you happy so you make them happy.
IN a nut shell, give each new relationship some time so you get to know the real Man before you see him as Mr. Right...
I did the same thing when I was 19.....in fact during college years, almost everyone does it. Its exploring and as long as you are practicing safe sex, its healthy too.
check out Christina Aguilera's song, "can't hold us down"
I did the same thing when I was 19.....in fact during college years, almost everyone does it. Its exploring and as long as you are practicing safe sex, its healthy too.
check out Christina Aguilera's song, "can't hold us down"
And thats exactly why so many people have Herpes for example.
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