My girlfriend and I tried to have sex recently, we are both virgins, but she said that it was too painful and we stopped. Is there something i am doing wrong? Or is that just part of how it is going to be?

Does anyone have any tips on how to get past this?

NowWhat

I would say that this pretty normal. It can be painful the first couple of times.
If you are at a point that you want to do this - try lots of foreplay. Also, invest in a good lubricant.

J_9

Please also don't forget to use protection unless of course you are ready for parenthood.

urgh160

Yeah, we used protection.

kepi

But remember- you both have to be relaxed. If she's nervous or self-conscious, or anything like that, it's just going to be more painful.

Question: Does she use pads or tampons? Because if she uses pads, then she probably has never had her hymen stretched, which is why she is experiencing the pain.

Also: Keep in mind that there may be some light spotting when and if you succeed.

Good luck

Xrayman

Lubrication. Lubrication. Lubrication. either (recommended) Natural or artificial and take it s.l.o.w.l.y-enter only when she is ready-asking you to do so.

1badchoice

These are all good recommendations. Just remember that sometimes it takes several times of trying to succeed. This is normal. It's a big step. I commend you for stopping when things got uncomfortable for her. As long as you take it slow, be sure she is lubricated, and stop if necessary things will work themselves out. Of course protection is always a must as well. Good luck. Enjoy each other. Cathy

Krs

Practise makes perfect, however you are both beginners so give yourself credit.
The pain should go for your girlfriend. The first time is always painful for the ladies.

Please also make sure that your girlfriend is taking the pill or use condoms, always safe guard yourselves

Jiser

Yep practice, I remember my first time, it was awkward and not fun but after a few times we were like bunnies! Lube + foreplay helps

kirriky

I have a friend who spent 4 years trying but never succeeded. The girl always said it hurt too much.

Then after they broke up she went on to hook up with another guy and suddenly it didnt hurt all that much.

And the guy never had any problems with other girls either.



thats not meant to discourage you tho. id stick with the previous advices - lube lube lube foreplay foreplay foreplay (not necessarily in this order)