first timer on anal sex.want to try it need answers

christiana567 · #1 Jan 9, 2008, 01:02 PM

im 21 and my boyfriend of a long term relationship has been asking for anal for the longets but im scared it'll hurt........what are some things i should know...and should i use lube or a condom...and a really embarrasing question...does ''poop'' get on his penis =\

terellowens · Jan 9, 2008, 01:05 PM

I just wouldn't tell him no if it is hurting....

and yes poop is a possibility

clafairey · Jan 9, 2008, 01:08 PM

Don't be pressured into it whatever you do. It does hurt at first sadly to say. If you actually want to do it for you, not just him, then yes, use both lubricant and a condom. Also make sure he takes it very slowly and to stop when you say.
Take a look at this site: Anal Sex Tips

Hope it helps

ISneezeFunny · Jan 9, 2008, 01:09 PM

...do it ONLY IF YOU WANT TO! because if you're having any doubts about it, you'll stress about it and it won't be a good experience for you.

lube. yes.

condom. yes.

poop. possibly.

lil_pea07 · Jan 9, 2008, 01:23 PM

everyone is giving advice on only doing it if she wants but did anyone ever think of telling her the possibilty of serious infections?!!!! doing anal can cause serious infections. there is so much bacteria. some of my friends have done it and gotten infections and they had to go to the e.r. theres more to think about than whether its going to hurt or if you will enjoy it or whatever. my advice is only do it if you want but if you do use a condom so keep the bacteria from getting contact with his genitals and before inserting his penis somewhere else in you take off the condom to prevent the bacteria from entering you. and when you are completely done make sure you bath immediately to kill any bacteria that may have gotten contact.

clafairey · Jan 9, 2008, 01:28 PM

If you noticed, everyone has stated to use a condom, which is one of the main things. Also, if you read the site I included in my post, it states the safe way to practice anal sex.

statictable · Jan 9, 2008, 06:18 PM

Yes, yes and yes.

Choux · Jan 10, 2008, 12:15 PM

You are too young to have anal sex. That's my opinion.

Xrayman · Jan 10, 2008, 12:28 PM

oh dear.

EIFS EXPERT · Jan 10, 2008, 12:30 PM

Did you ever have to poop and strained?

I would imagine anal sex would be 1000 times worse. I also read that the chances of getting hemroids are greater for folks who have anal sex.

If I were you I would go slow. Literally.



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