Is my fiance a potential pervert?

chrissymarie · Apr 29, 2008, 01:10 PM

over the weekend I found my fiances porn collection. first let me tell you he is a basketball coach/ social studies teacher a a prodminatley black high school. I am mixed half colombian half black 19 year old girl and he is white 29 year old man. I've been out of highschool for about 2 years now and am very independent for my age. I used to have issues with the fact that he taught seniors that were basically my age or a couple years younger but it faded away until now. His porn collection consists of older white men having sex with young black girls i.e. black girls on their 18th birthday, black girls pretending to be virgins, black girls in cheerleading and school uniforms and black girls pretending they don't want to have sex. I am very worried now and I feel i need wo do something but I don't know what. What should I do?

amIwrong · May 1, 2008, 10:12 AM

I agree 100%

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Originally Posted by kp2171

however... having read your other thread about his being older...
http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...-a-209460.html

you are talking about secretly taking birth control to prevent pregnancy when he wants a child sooner. that is lying.

you asked us to consider the fact that hes paying for school when looking at the relationship. why???

so at this point you are scared of his fetish with younger black women (i have my own general fetishes in women..ok), you are unsure how to take his collection of porn and unsure about whether he will prey on young women, you are not on the same page about kids and you are considering hiding the fact that you will take birth control when hell be anxious for kids, and you complain that he doesnt want to do the things you want to do, and your youth is important to you.

why in the WORLD are you planning on getting married???

it makes absolutely no sense to me. were he to write in, id tell him that marrying is a bad idea, with all of these issues at hand.

and his paying for school means NOTHING concerning your relationship.

kp2171 · May 1, 2008, 10:17 AM

a new thread was started...

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriag...nt-211494.html

JudyKayTee · May 1, 2008, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by kp2171

a new thread was started...

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriag...nt-211494.html

And so the stories go on and on and on -

Thanks for the heads up. I only saw the first 3.



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