over the weekend I found my fiances porn collection. first let me tell you he is a basketball coach/ social studies teacher a a prodminatley black high school. I am mixed half colombian half black 19 year old girl and he is white 29 year old man. I've been out of highschool for about 2 years now and am very independent for my age. I used to have issues with the fact that he taught seniors that were basically my age or a couple years younger but it faded away until now. His porn collection consists of older white men having sex with young black girls i.e. black girls on their 18th birthday, black girls pretending to be virgins, black girls in cheerleading and school uniforms and black girls pretending they don't want to have sex. I am very worried now and I feel i need wo do something but I don't know what. What should I do?

chrissymarie

No I don't think so. we have way too much sex for him to even have time to watch porn. I found in a box in the garage.

chrissymarie

Yes I do believe I want to be married to him forever, I don't believe his preference for loving and being attracted to me inside and out will ever change.

Choux

Look, folks, here in Chicagoland about every six months there is a teacher hauled out of school in handcuffs for having sexual relationships, doing strange things, viewing porn......WITH THEIR STUDENTS. Unfortunately, it is very common.

PEDOPHILES ARE LIARS......PERVERTS ARE OUT TO PERVERT THE YOUNG AND INNOCENT; THEY RELY ON THEM BEING FEARFUL AND STUPID! They rely on adults for being too passive.


Be careful, girl, this guy is one bad dude..........

chrissymarie

Be careful meaning? This doesn't answer my questions. Thats just a statement.

Xrayman

and this,
just make me think you are buying perhaps a little too much "spin". form him you are a little niave-I hope I'm wrong but i'd watch him like a hawk. Sorry, but I KNOW and understand this fetish-it doesnt just "go away" over time.

progunr

WOW!

This one scares me! Not the guy, some of the answers!!!

OK, "in a box, in the garage". What does that tell you about how much he is "enjoying" this porn now?

You said you guys have a very good sex life? So, when he didn't have a real person, that fit into his preferences, this was his substitute, and a very cheap imitation, substitute at that.

Don't call the cops! Period.

I understand the paranoia, and concern, but didn't we learn anything from the Salem Witch Trials?

If the porn is in the garage, and you are in his bed, I think you are making way to big a deal out of this.

Synnen

And here in Minneapolis, there are hundreds of magazines for sale at the grocery store, all featuring sexy young women and how to be JUST like them.

So if all teachers are closet pedophiles, all women want to regress to being a sexy teenager that stars in a porn movie.

Get real. Seriously.

MOST porn is about YOUNG women. You don't see very many porn movies (though they do exist!) about a 20-something guy wanting to nail an 80 year old woman. About the closest most get is the MILF movies about women in their 20s.

If it was in a box, in the garage, that would indicate to me that it was something he himself had used when he was younger--perhaps even close to the age of the women in the videos!

For god's sake, not every man who watches porn is an addict, or a pedophile, or has no idea how to connect with a "real" woman.

amIwrong

I agree, using recreational tools is not a bad thing, having a fetish is not a bad thing. Something about this, comes off as a bit disturbing to me for some reason. I am not sure I have any reason or grounds to say that. If nothing else couples counseling would not be a bad idea, seriously, b/c someone, a third party needs to determine if this harmless or not. I mean, you will want to know if you were just a person to fulfill a fantasy or someone he clearly wanted to have a relationship with. I think his willingness to sort this out will give you the answer you need. He may not be wrong, but somone needs to be involved to determine that. Since you are emotionally involved he may dismiss what you say, as sad as that may be. Sometimes people are more receptive when an outside, impartial person shares an educated opinion.

amIwrong

I agree. I mean, if he were looking at something that had actual children in it I would be a bit disturbed and that would call me into action no doubt. The touchy part of all this I think that your hinting to is that you feel he may be attracted to his students, underage students, who aren't children per se but not legal. I don't think the porn is really the issue here then is it?

JudyKayTee

Lots of people who have "way too much sex" have time to watch porn. Or are perverts. Or both. Only you know this situation ... and him. Lots of women are s-o-o surprised when "he's" arrested because "they have sex all the time."

Would I report him? No. Would I think twice about marrying him? Yes.