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My fiance and I have a very healthy sex life but something about of sex life is starting to bother me. He can get excited and stay excited but he CANNOT ejaculate. I'd say he ejaculates once a week and we have sex 2 to 3 times a day. Is it my fault... what can I do to help and should I even question him about this or will it make things worse?
2-3 times a day? I think you have found the problem. It can get hard (no pun intended) to ejaculate for a guy with that kind of continued stimulation. It doesn't mean he isn't enjoying it. It especially doesn't mean he isn't turned on by you. Actually just having the desire to get it on and know that you probably won't have an orgasm says to me "he is aroused".
2-3 times a day? I think you have found the problem. It can get hard (no pun intended) to ejaculate for a guy with that kind of continued stimulation. It doesn't mean he isn't enjoying it. It especially doesn't mean he isn't turned on by you. Actually just having the desire to get it on and know that you probably won't have an orgasm says to me "he is aroused".
I'm bothered by it... I have a huge sexual appetite. Is 2 to 3 times a day abnormal?
no, it doesn't seem to abnormal per say. You said "I'm bothered by it", why? If you are satisfied and he is satisfied then what is the issue? Do you have an orgasm every time you have sex? Most woman don't so if you do congratulations. But, does that mean that he should be upset or bothered if it's not an issue for you? Back to what I said before. If you are happy with the sex, its frequency, and he is also happy, then don't make an issue where their isn't one.
how old? how long sexually active? just curious. it can make a difference.
if you are saying that your guy can get hard, maintain a quality erection, get you to orgasm on a regular basis, have sex with you multiple times a day, and not complain when he doesnt ejaculate... honey, you are with a man that many, many women would kill for.
a few things...
sex surveys can be skewed by a lot of things... but when asked "how often do you want sex" (not how often do you actually have it) the most common number ive seen thrown around is often is 2-3 times a week. however, when you combine those who say they want sex everyday, and those who say they want it multiple times a day, this population is sometimes bigger. and the last survey i read showed women and men overall were not that off in terms of who wanted it how often.
now...how often do people actually get it? again, one survey said about 3/4 of couples in serious relationships have sex at least once a week or more. the striking difference ive seen is between those who say theyd like sex everyday and those who actually have it everyday. while the "wishes" can hit as high as 50%, the "haves" can be in the single digits. whether the "wishes" just want what they arent getting, i cant say.
personally, ive only dated one woman who wanted sex daily and as often as possible.
obviously this can be all over the place with age, experience, presence of kids in the home, etc...
im a chipper guy now if i have sex 2-3 times a week concerning my having an orgasm. i could go down on my partner every day and not complain one bit. i love doing it and she responds so well. but i prefer a little sexual tension to build, and for me, a day or two thinking about it helps the overall experience. i think my strength, longevity, and orgasm is better with a few days buildup. when with the partner who wanted sex all the time, my saving grace was she was sooo easy to get off, so i could keep up without a lot of wear and tear.
now, with a child in the house and a wife that travels and works long hours, sometimes the stars align and we get that 2-3 times a week "quota", and sometimes, even often, we dont.
theres a person here on the boards wholl claim theyll go mad if its not everyday, and then those wholl state their drive in all but gone.
uhm... also, does he always wait for you to hit the big O or do you ever tell him to go first? if my partner says "its all about you" i can hit orgasm in no time. i know all the moves i need. i can get into my own pants with no problem.
but... if im holding back for her, especially if i have to hold back a long time, sometimes ill take longer to hit orgasm. and sometimes i might not at all if theres a time constraint... if i find, after getting her off, that ive hit a "flat spot" where it feels good, but just isnt climbing, often a withdrawl, followed by a brief resting period of maybe 10-15 minutes and then going again can do the trick.
not to mention there are positions i absolutely favor... so if hes working to get you off, he might not have you in the best positions for him. one of my absolute favs is one my partner doesnt care for when shes trying to hit orgasm.
short answer is as long as he seems content... and long as hes a giving lover... i think you should thank the heavens you have a partner who can keep up with you and who seems balanced about sex.
I think, C, that he can ejaculate and has no problem with that. I believe that if and when when the time comes that you are having sex 2-3 times a week, he will ejaculate every time.
You never know with young guys. 
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