This is a complicated question. My girlfriend has never been able to have an orgasm. While performing oral sex, i found a spot on the clitorus where it seems like i could give her an orgasm. When it seems like she is starting to have an orgasm, she begins to urinate. I do believe it is urine due to the amount of fluid, and the fact that it comes during clitoral stimulation and not G-spot stimulation. She says she cannot stop this, and it is due to some kind of contractions. Is this common at all? Is there anything I (we) can do to help the situation? Worst case scenario, will she have a full orgasm if I dont stop if this happens?

Wondergirl

Has she emptied her bladder before having sex?

The nerves around a woman's bladder are interlaced with the nerves around her sex organs. She doesn't have a prostate to act as a dam to prevent urine flow when she orgasms. Usually it's not a problem, but can become one. Has she had any spinal or back problems, bladder infections, bladder weakness after e.g., childbirth?

Her doing kegels (Pelvic floor exercises) may help. Or check with her doctor. There are medications she can take, but there might be a simpler way to solve this.

Xrayman

I'd put my money on female ejaculation (just because it is not g-spot oriented means nothing)

does it taste like urine? if not-then it's okay.

progunr

Me too! I think you got yourself a SQUIRTER. It is not real common, but some women DO produce a large amount of fluid. I've seen it shoot all the way across the room.
The test is in the taste, assuming you can tell the difference?

Choux

I think that she is young and has an undeveloped orgasmic sexuality. She has associated in her mind the the pleasurable feeling of an aroused state in the clitoris with urination.....in that state, she can develop spasms of her short urinary canal opening which are pleasurable...followed automatically by the emptying of the bladder.

I would guess that she has never had a real orgasm. You should probably stop this game before it becomes entrenched....if she wants to go on and become fully orgasmic, she needs to follow a different path to pleasure!

2personal

What your describing sounds familier to what my girlfriend does all the time during sex, its not urine, its .

Choux

It's urine.

Moomin

Oh lord! Here we go again with the 'squirting' issue!

Have you actually talked to her about how it feels? 'Does it feel good?' or 'Does it feel like an orgasm?'!

kp2171

amazing. in two weeks, two posts about female ejaculation.

the ejaculate composition isnt always clear cut. women who have larger volumes of ejaculate can have urine present. the ejaculate without urine present is a prostatic fluid similar to that in the mans semen. some women are not able to easily separate orgasm from ejaculation. the fact its involuntary means its less likely mixed with urine, as women who at able to force it often have larger volumes, leading to suspicions of added urine volume.

point is, even if its not g spot stim, it might simply be normal female "prostatic" fluid and not urine. are you talking about a couple of tablespoons of fluid or more?

honesty, a couple might prepare for a mans ejaculation and the "messiness" that can occur by having a towel present, so why would it be different here?

Guitarplayer

OK, i am very certain it is mostly (if not all) urine. It smells, tastes, looks like urine. And its about 4-6 ounces of fluid that comes out, until she stops it. She says she doesnt think she is having an orgasm. And about your "messiness" statement: I would be MORE than willing to accept the messiness. The real issue lies within the akwardness feeling she gets from this (which in my opinion is probably causing her lack of orgasm). I do talk to her about this but she just seems to get more frustrated when i do. All i need to know is if she if fact WILL have an orgasm following the release of the fluid. She usually stops in embarassment. Thanks for all the responses! I really appreciate it!