[Ash123]

I was asked recently if it is common for women to have trouble climaxing. I replied yes. I added that younger women need to know their bodies and should not always rush it. And that "toys" are a great aid in this exploration. This woman was 27 and had 3 kids and never made it a priority. Amazing. She is a longtime friend and just confided it in passing. I was curious just how common this has been for our posters and veterans.

I am curious if we might attempt some orgasm success postings, with some things to consider including:

1) How old were you when you "sorted it out"
2) What method did you choose? Was it simple after that? Automatic?
3) Did you think you were not orgasmic
4) Is there a misconception about the female orgasm you wanted to share that might help other women reach that elusive spot.
5) What was biggest challenge? Was it psychological? Physical?

This info might prove helpful to many....

Ash

[Iris09]

I think it is a great idea. I am 39years old and have 2 kids and have only just sorted it out. I think it would be great to help other women discover this wonderful thing, hopefully long before I did.

[Ash123]

She said she used a small external vibrator but still no climax....just a tingle...
maybe she needs something else? internal?

What did you do? :-)

And after you sorted it out - could you every time?

A

[bronzebabe]

I can identify with the 27 year old with 3 kids who sex wasn't a priority. Never had an orgasm til I was 30. Knew how to, but never cared.
So, #1. I was 30
#2. I used a vibrator, because my ex was no good in bed.
#3. I did think I was not orgasmic.
#4. My only advice is experiment and don't be discouraged.
#5, biggest challenge is psychological

[Ash123]

Was it a little one for clitoral or a larger one for internal.
What was your "breakthrough"?
What was the psychological block?

[Ash123]

This may be tougher than I thought to get answers - just like the big "O"

:-)

[Synnen]

Ash, this is an interesting thought.

I'm just swamped right now, and only answering questions that NEED answers (or moderation!)

Let me get through this week, and I'll come answer for you

[redhed35]

i was quite a young teenager when i had my first sexual experience,we were together for 8 years,from very early on i could orgasem,looking back i think it was just a fluk..raging hormones!

in other relationships i could not reach orgasem unless i trusted my partner,and never orgasem with a one night stand.

for me,it starts in my head,if thats not right,if i cannot let go with my partner its not going to happen..

i suppose i was in my late 20's by the time i figured out what worked for me.

[Ash123]

nice answer "red"

I think we can create an invaluable resource here if more women share!

[Gemini54]

I did not have a serious relationship until my late 20's and had not even masturbated until then! It took me a year to orgasm in my first serious relationship, and it only happened because a friend gave me a vibrator - one of those slimline cylindrical devices for external use - and I experimented with it.

Since then I have tended to use the vibrator frequently as part of sexual intercourse, and also for masturbation. Orgasm has never been 'simple' for me, often dependent on mood and the external environment.

With my current partner (my husband), orgasms have been amazing. Again not always predictable but I have learnt not to judge the quality of the sexual experience by my capacity to have an orgasm. Both my husband and I have had full-body, multiple orgasms in the one session. I attribute this to the connection between us and the capacity to totally let go with each other.

An ongoing good sexual relationship and the capacity to orgasm is really not just a series of physical techniques or just physical attraction (clearly attraction is a component) it is also about love, trust and a deep connection with your partner.