I feel ashamed. Is this behavior uncommon?

confusion28 · #1 Apr 23, 2007, 06:25 PM

First of all let me start by saying I've heard this behavior or fantasy is fairly normal among men but I'm not sure. I feel very ashamed and guilty about what I'm about to ask but here it goes. Whenever I masturbate I have these rape fantasies. I have had these ever since I've been young. I'm 28 now. The thing is this, I would never ever rape a woman!!! I respect women, have good relationships with them, and have never been abusive or violent with a woman. I've had many girlfriends and have never thought about harming any of them! Let me explain a little further. When I fantasize about rape, I'm never fantasizing about me raping anyone, I think because I don't have that in me, to do that. I fantasize that I am someone else forcing my will on whoever my fantasy is about. I feel very guilty about this but as much as I try to stop, I just can't seem to do it. Let me repeat I am no danger to anyone, this is all in my fantasy world. I guess what is so intriguing to me about this fantasy is doing whatever I want sexually to whoever I want while in this fantasy world. Let me also say that I have never been sexually abused, I know this for a fact. I know inevitably that question will be asked of me. I just feel bad about this behavior, but I've been doing it for probably 15 years. Have any of you heard about this kind of behavior before. Any suggestions? Am I a sicko? I sure hope not! Should I seek help? Please, help me!!!!! Thank you.

TheSavage · Apr 23, 2007, 06:29 PM

Nothing abnormal about you -- fantasies are just that - fantasies.-- Savage
edit -- if you said you meet a woman and fantasize about rape I would see this in a different light

Emland · Apr 23, 2007, 06:33 PM

I understand that many women have the same fantasy. I personally haven't, but I don't find it unusual.

lfsxthnudie · Apr 23, 2007, 06:42 PM

As long as it stays a fantasy and you don't ever find yourself even thinking about it with a real woman it's harmless- it's that male urge to be aggressive. DO you think the cavemen asked first? I think not. It's in your genes. I actually fantasise about a man forcing himself on me a lot- doesn't mean I want to be raped- but the aggresiveness turns me on. Happy masturbating



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