Hi i am 20 years old and my boyfirend and i have been going out for a year now but i know i fake my orgasims with him when we have sex. what should i do? i want to feel having my orgasim soo bad even though i only herd from my friends how it feels i never felt it. there was this one time when we went at the beach an had sex on the sand an that was the only time i think i was really close to having my orgasim. but it never happened. i get wet really fast but i just never come i dont knwo why? please help me....each time i fake my orgsim i feel really bad when i am done because i am unsatisfied but cant say because i dont knwo what i am supposed to feel or even do to get one and at the same time i dont want to make my partner dissapointed that he did not please me.... please help..

Krs

I personally think most women orgasm through oral sex...not full intercourse!
Sexychick, have you had the pleasure of experiencing that with boyfriend?

Kadehadaire

you know, I am 20 too, and had the same problem. I was honest about it - he could not understand why I could not come. We kept working at it, and when it finally happened, I knew! I dont know why it came, it just did, and he had to be very persistant and hold back to give me the time I needed. Perhaps that is the key. There are also certain exercises that strengthen the abdon=minal wall and make it easier to climax. Hope it helps!

rc04

come to my house and i will make you have a orgasim

Kadehadaire

Yes, because that is so helpful rc04.

Krs

someone seems overly confident

JuliAshe

I'm not an expert but i used to fake it with my last boyfriend and I always felt bad. I know how it feels to not be satisfied but to be unable to say anything. I think the best thing to do is tell him that your not orgasming. Make sure he knows its not his fault or anything he is doing wrong. It took me awhile to figure it out but sex is about more than the orgasm. Its about sharing your body with someone you love. Sex isnt about the goal its about enjoying the ride and its important for your guy to know that the ride he gives you is definitely enough for you to come back wanting more.

429729

if you want to feel an orgasm this is exactly what you should do during sex:

1. have your man sit on a chair
2. sit on top of him and work it
3. eventually you will feel something different ****DON"T STOP OR CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE DOING*****
4. Continue.....and Orgasm

remember to relax....don't think about it....and most importantly BREATHE in and out deeply---it gets your blood flowing to your nether-regions



for the first year of my relationship, i never orgasmed (he's my first & only sex partner)!! then one time when we were having sex I felt a great feeling (like something was about to happen), but my boyfriend moved a little and it was GONE & I didnt orgasm.....but I knew what feeling to look for which indicated an impending orgasm....HOWEVER, the first time I did the chair technique described above I orgasmed.

For some odd reason I can orgasm everytime I have sex--but really only in two positions--the "chair" one & doggstyle with him rubbing my clitoris.

Oral sex is also a great way to orgasm

Some women are just different...for instance my older sister....she thinks I am a total wierdo because I can come everytime I have sex & she can't....I think she's the wierdo because I think everyone woman can...you just have to figure out what gets you to that point....and for me it's only those two positions

sallgood

im the same as you...its a girl thing...its not htat we want to fake it...but for some people its harder than for others. a lot of people can come from their , but thats not so important when you are having actual intercourse...its not the same...i know. A lot of the time it can be teh positions you use, but the reason for that is because depending on the size of his penis he may not hit your g-spot. its only in one spot, and hey...bigger inst always better...trust me...my bf now is too big so that he passes my gspot and if he doesnt go in all the way than he doesnt get the same pleasure so we cme up witha sysatem...take your time. if you cant talk to him about it it shoulkdne be happening/

heartbeauty

You do not have to do that 40% of women just can not orgasm..
Make him you first by oral sex then let him do his job that is the best way

iiheartloserrrs

i dont know the answer but
most guys have told me to
communicate but im too shy!!
dont worry girl im the same
way and its kinda sad!!