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ex girlfriend doesnt want to try only wants sex

Asked Feb 9, 2010, 03:54 PM — 107 Answers
I was with my ex for 2.5 yrs. She has three kids with two different dads

Our difficulties were due to our exes. Her ex would tzt her things such as telll your loser boyfriend how many times we have had sex while yeah have been together. My ex would txt her dumb things too. I believe her ex husband though.

She left her 3 kids for almost a year and moved in with me. The kids were with their dads. She left her ex husband to be with me.

She has broken up with me before. One time she went to the club one day after the break up and gets drunk and gives her ph number to someone she says she hardly remember how he looks. We got back together 3 days later and she changed her numbeer. She broke up with me a month later and left on a trip with a gfriend of her. I saw a pic of her on myspace with some dude kissing her cheek and hugging her and her gfriend next to her she had a big smile. She said it was some random dud that wanted a poic with them but then left.

So two weeks ago I chk her ph and she said she erased a txt from her ex because it was dumb and probably meant foir someone else and she didn't remember what it said. So I got mad. And she kicked me out of her house. We yelled and pushed each other around so her kid saw. Then she yells to bever call her again and to not look for her.

4 days later we go out dancing she was hesitating to hug or kiss me. We end up making love that night but she says were not back together.

So I continue to call her and confess my love for her and to try again. She says not and seems annoyed. Telling me she wants space and wants to b a lone. So I keep calling her and finally she yells at me to back off and to stop calling and calls me a loser a pest and a piece of crap.


She calls five times and txt me that she looked for me at home and I wasntg there and to forget about her.

I go to her hojuse the next day and she says she looked for me because she was drinking and got horny and she felt comforftable with me. We make love agin that mornkng bjt she says that right now she doesn't want a relationship but like to make love to me because of comfort. And then she syas she won't stop going out. But would like to keep it simple. I told her no that I wans t a sexual object.

I don't know what to do I love her so much.
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Feb 14, 2010, 03:26 PM
This stinks. Valentines alone. My dumbbutt ga ve her a gift and a valentines card with a whole lot of feeling. She said thank you and teared up when she read it. We had a short kiss but then it was over and she told me that I m better off without her. I'm lost without her.
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Feb 14, 2010, 03:31 PM
Time to find yourself without her now.
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Feb 14, 2010, 07:34 PM
I am so mad at my self and sad. On valenitines day come on guys. Her daughter was texting me and telling me her mommy left her with her 2 other kids and grandma and granpa are asleep. That her mommy told her she was coming back later on at night and that she was dressed up in a skirt and heels and a nice shirt. Come on she freaking told e she was going to her sisters. Why including today does she lie in my face that there's no one involved. Where else is she going to go on valentines at 8pm because her sister was at her house. Oh my! I'm so mad. This woman is a 28yr old with 3 kids and doesn't have the descensy to be honest. Why? I'm 25 with no kids and I can't seem to move on. What the hell is my problem
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Feb 14, 2010, 07:40 PM
Dude, Valentines Day is created by Hallmark. Yes, I am a woman and I despise this day. It's a reason to spend money. Life, love and happiness occurs every day, not just once a year.
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Feb 14, 2010, 07:58 PM
Why would a woman lie so bluntly in my face that there's no one around. Why can't I hate this woman or thing whatever the hell she is. Obviously she doesn't have feelings. Its clear cut that she had a date and left her kids. Why does she continue to say there's no one involved.
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Feb 14, 2010, 08:56 PM
Geez dude, what do you expect from a female who uses men for sex? Now you know that such people exist, accept it, and the bullet you barely dodged. Just figure she had to replace you with somebody..............anybody. Celebrate!
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Feb 15, 2010, 05:35 AM
I understand. But its hard when you fall deep in love with someone. I just hate people lying in my face. I mean if she tells me to move on and to back off that she's happier and don't want to be with me. Shot she even told me I talked her out of the whole having sex with me thing
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Feb 15, 2010, 06:06 AM
If you keep staying in contact with her or getting updates about her, you're just going to prolong the pain and misery.

When you are ready to let go, then you need 1000% NC.

Every time you talk to her, you're going to reset all the progress you've made. Based on your posts, you have zero progress because you are constantly trying to communicate with her. So you're just going to keep on suffering.

When you're ready to let her go, know that the NC rules are there for you to help you heal from the break up.
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Feb 15, 2010, 06:11 AM
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So I keep calling her and finally she yells at me to back off and to stop calling and calls me a loser a pest and a piece of crap. I go to her house the next day and she says she looked for me because she was drinking and got horny and she felt comfortable with me. We make love again that morning but she says that right now she doesn't want a relationship but like to make love to me because of comfort. And then she says she won't stop going out. But would like to keep it simple. I told her no that I wasn't a sexual object.
I think you have to examine exactly what it was you were so in love with, as she seemed really clear what her feelings were. Yes its hard when we get rejected, and have to accept that things won't work, but all the feelings in the world cannot change all that, or stop the hurting. Maybe their is no one else, just her having fun doing her thing, but that's not the important part as I don't see her being more honest than she could be, but you not seeing that this will never work.

Nice rant though, and venting those feelings helps.
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Feb 15, 2010, 06:45 AM
You've had one lucky escape.
Go no contact and stay no contact.
Take control of your own life and avoid her at all costs.
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