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Hello,
me and my fiance have been trying out all sorts of positions but their is one in particular that its kinda hard for me to do because in a way its kinda bugs.. the position is the doggie style and i noticed that every time he inserts himself inside and penetrates hard i feel like he is touching something inside-like maybe a ball or something-in a way it is a bother and a little painful-dont know exactly what it is-dont know if what he is touching is actually the g-spot or what.. iam looking for any suggestions..its weird because i dont feel it when we do other positions just that one in particular and thats the position that i think he mostly enjoys..i just want to know if the bother is normal because that position tends to penetrate more and we are both new to that position--i also notice that when he gets hard his tip tends to bend upward and that might also cause the bother..any suggestion on what 2 do?
He could be ramming it in pretending he is a stallion or something! That would be my guess.
Perhaps, you could ask him to practice slightly different angles and speeds and depths to help *you* learn about *your* body(no judgement of him). Then, you can figure this out given all the new information.
That position allows the deepest penetration of any position and if the angles are right he could very well be rubbing against your cervix...which I have been told does not feel good...just try some variations and be honest with your man...I guarentee he doesn't want to hurt you ;-)
I have the same issue with my wife. Trick is to know when I feel the cervix its not a billiard ball and I'm not trying to knock it in the corner pocket.
i agree... first thought was he might be hitting the cervix. women have written in here when talking about whether they like a "bigger" man that some have not preferred sex with a "bigger" guy cause it can be painful if it hits the cervix.
that said, have you had a proper gyn checkup lately? just to make sure there isnt any other issue?
dont freak out. just maybe talk to your health care provider.
i know it can be embarassing when talking about sex, but look... they are professionals who are interested in helping you... so if something doesnt feel right physically, dont be afraid to talk to a health care pro.
sounds like cervix is being "hit". he needs to take it a little easier on you. About his penis-it probably is not the problem-but it sounds as if he has been circumcised and the procedure was a little "incorrect", this might be causing the upward bend.
Doggie style can enable some very deep penetration, and he is more in control of how deep. Try it with you on top. Penetration can be just as deep but you are more in control of the angle and depth. Don't 'let' him just do what feels good to him. Sex, in this case involves both of you. Use his body and get yours first. Watching you enjoy yourself can be a huge turn on for a guy.
try hiking your up a little bit more in the air while lowering your upper body. that will allow for a downward penetration which will feel more comfortable.
He could be ramming it in pretending he is a stallion or something! That would be my guess.
Perhaps, you could ask him to practice slightly different angles and speeds and depths to help *you* learn about *your* body(no judgement of him). Then, you can figure this out given all the new information.
Happy testing,
I have to agree with Choux. Worst case scenario, you decide you don't like that position, but damn won't it be fun experimenting?