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OKAY SO HERES THE DEAL GUYS.. IM 17 YRS YOUNG AND I HAVE HAD TWO SEXAUL PARTNERS. THE FIRST ONE OF WHICH I LOST MY VIRGINITY TO I NEVER HAD AN ORGASIM OR CAME AT ALL.. NOW IM WITH ANOTHER GUY AND I LOVE HIM ALOT AND WHEN WE DO HAVE SEX I ENJOY IT I NEVER FAKE IT BUT IT SEEMSLIKE I GET DRY FAST AND I REALLY WANT TO HAVE AN ORGASIM !!! SOMETIMES I THINK THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH MELOL.. I NEVER FINGERMYSELF I HAVENT SO I DONT KNOW THE BEGINING OF AN ORGASIM CAN BE LIKE.. JUS NEED SOME HELP =]
Firstly believe me, when you're about to have an orgasm you will know it
A woman is more known to have an orgasm during oral sex, than actual intercourse.
Try that, play around with each other, and let him give you oral sex, and i can guarantee you will have an orgasm
thanks alot for your help.. i hope i can try itsoon..because unfortunatly my guys ego is kinda down now since he has noticed that he cant get me to reach orgasim. .i see around the site that its actually a big topic thats discussed her. many girls and their guys have probelms in reaching orgasims..which i think totally sucks, all my girlfriends braG about how great an orgasim is and im getting kinda jealous ! lol =]
I totally agree with Krs,
Though perhaps your eagerness to achieve an orgasm, is in part, somewhat impairing your ability to actually achieve one. It seems like you are putting a good bit of pressure on yourself, taking on responsibility for both your own and your partner's emotional experiences and responses; at a time in which you should simply be giving in to and fully enjoying the moment. As you become increasingly aroused, you should be experiencing increased lubricity. Though there can be physiological causes of your tendency to dryness, it may simply be due to anxiety.
Oral pleasure will certainly give you a much more direct, and likely more intense, stimulation. I agree, you will likely reach an orgasm much more quickly and easily, and it will be a most rewarding experience for both of you.
Good luck. Take care.
thanks alot for your help.. i hope i can try itsoon..because unfortunatly my guys ego is kinda down now since he has noticed that he cant get me to reach orgasim. .i see around the site that its actually a big topic thats discussed her. many girls and their guys have probelms in reaching orgasims..which i think totally sucks, all my girlfriends braG about how great an orgasim is and im getting kinda jealous ! lol =]
Dont always believe what friends say about sex and orgasm ESPECIALLY if they are bragging about it.
I believe when people brag its because they wanna look good to others.. meaning = they are exagerating
Everyone is different, everyone has different libido's and everyone reachs orgasm in different stages.
Just be patient and mainly relax.
Also talk to your guy.
Tell him what you would like him to do to you and vice-versa
I love the answers you have gotten so far. Lubricity Thomas, new one on me, I love it!!!!!!!
One thing that was not metioned though, are you on any medications, alcohol? There are many environmental factors that will lessen lubricity, these just being two of them.
And, yes, it is very common to stress yourself out of an orgasm.
Also, It depends on the female as well. Everyone is different, just remember to remain open with your partner, and one thing that can completely ruin it for you during your sexual play is thinking about "you innability to orgasm". I have done this once or twice. If you begin to think about other things or your fear of not being able to orgasm it will ruin your sexual experience.
Just think about the moment. Think about him and your bodies nothing else. and tell him to move slowly and there has to be some pleasuring involved prior to penatration because it will only intensify your orgasm.
I seem to have the same problem! i've been having sex with my boyfriend for over 2 years.. and yes i love the sex and i do orgasm, he asks me sumtimes during sex if i did orgasm.. and the thing is.. i duno if i did! i cant feel the beginnin of it.. unlike him.. he knows that he is about to ***, do you know what i mean? is this normal for girls?
What you need to do is when you are alone. Start fingering yourself. Learn how to bring yourself to orgasm. Then once you learn different teckniques of bringing yourself to orgasm. That will help your boyfriend. Each women is different and get orgasms differently. The trick is to learn your own body then you will be able to teach the guy how to please you and make you feel good. Lots of guys get bad raps for not knowing but how are we suppose to know your body when you do not even know yours yourself. As far as getting dry, and I bet you get sore. There are lubricants out there that you could use to keep you moist. Try it out. Have fun, and enjoy.
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