I don't know myself sexually!

Ash123 · Aug 11, 2008, 06:16 PM

I would seek counseling. I think you can find it through various channels. Talk to your general Practicioner m.d. Or women's shelters. It doesn't need to go on your insurance because that will raise your rates for later. But I think something deeper is going on here and you'd benefit from learning more about your situation talking to a counselor face to face.

Fr_Chuck · Aug 11, 2008, 07:07 PM

Yes, this appears to be possible destructive and addictive behavior and I woulid talk to a couselor about these to get in touch with who you really are and to perhaps deal with feelings and issues never addressed

hannah_nicole · Aug 11, 2008, 07:54 PM

I think this is all fairly normal. Before I had done anything sexual with anybody else I was confused too one day wanting to just give it to whoever and the next wanting a relationship, and love to go with it. My advice would be to find yourself sexually by yourself with yourself. Expecting someone else to find it for you will only leave you unsatisfied. Read erotic novels, look at porn or buy some toys. Just find something that can help you explore your sexuality, and what you like.

N0help4u · Aug 11, 2008, 08:12 PM

You run ads saying horny beautiful woman and you talk to guys saying all you are looking for is a casual relationship and you say you are okay with it BUT then you claim Despite the fact I wrote I could never have casual sex, you see yourself as MAYBE being a player .....I can’t understand how I could think that was the right thing to do- meeting up with some random guy I met online to have sex. That feels so wrong!?

I think you are playing with fire and getting in way over your head! With the title horny beautiful woman WHAT do you expect to attract?

I think you really need to sort out your thoughts and think things through realistically.

Synnen · Aug 11, 2008, 10:29 PM

You need counseling.

I've said it before, I'll say it again.

Hopefully, you get help before you get yourself hurt.

smoothy · Aug 12, 2008, 06:24 AM

I'll say it as well. Get some counseling, and be honest whith them when you are there. I too see some behaviours that WILL cause problems. Such as meeting up with people online for sex you have never met in person plus the fact you don't appear to be in or have a relationship with someone you know locally.

Usual progression is you meet someone interesting, you date them to get to know them better then maybe have sex at some point. Not advertize for sex and later hope they are interesting enough to date.

steph86 · Aug 12, 2008, 06:52 AM

I think I didn't make myself clear. Before, I wasn't even interesting in dating. I just wanted sex, no strings attached. Then I realized that wasn't what I wanted at all, it was just destructive behavior and deep down I think I knew I never intended to go through with it. It was just a phase.

I really just wanted your opinions about the thing with this guy. I'm so used of being approached by guys who only seems to want one thing, and this is the first time a guy says he wants to start off as friends. It just feels unusual.

N0help4u · Aug 12, 2008, 07:05 AM

Well for one thing if he thinks you are into being a horny woman and he says he wants friends first maybe he is genuine but still I would wonder what his motivation for replying to a horny woman title would be if he is looking for a friends first thing usually ads like that attract all the wrong type that do just want one thing.
I would continue talking to him and getting more acquainted with who he is (or claims to be) before agreeing to meet him and also make yourself clear that you really weren't looking for that type relationship but you did it more on a fluke or whatever.

Ash123 · Aug 12, 2008, 07:49 AM

Steph,

I know you just want info on one guy, but that is actually impossible from where I sit.
I think your need to know yourself sexually is an honest assesment by you and you should do it before heading into another relationship.

Having sex is a great thing and yes, if you present a sexy package a man will jump on it, BUT it will not create any self-esteem for you. And that is the goal for a really healthy sex life.

I don't know myself sexually!

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