I just lost my virginity about three or four days ago, so thats what im guessing what it is, but even before we were "Exploring" each other before then [oral, fingers, etc] and i didnt even feel anything then. I read a lot of articles saying that its stimulation of the , and i've tried it- it feels nice, but it doesnt build up. and its kinda starting to worry me. i dont want to be paranoid because i just started having sex, but i dont want to not feel what sex feels like if i can't find out why i can't feel anything. [and its not about size, because my boyfriend is a good size.] i feel it in, but its just kinda numb or a dull feeling. so im very lost. if i told my boyfriend that i dont feel anything he would feel hurt as a man, but also betrayed because i didnt even feel anything while we were fooling around, so what do i do?!

Fr_Chuck

you have to learn your body first,

britster

i have been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years and i still dont have feeling or ever had an orgasim. its frusterating as hell and its puttin a strain on our relationship cuz were not connectin on that level ya kno. were gunna start tryin toys and stuff but i dont kno why i havent felt anything..im 19 so its kinda confusin...so dont feel bad im in the same boat

missmouse

Hey i hope this helps you out but i am the same as you me and my boyfriend have been having sex and its not working for us either ive been looking stuff up on the internet and its making me understand better but just to let you know your not on your own out there and dont feel like you would upset him i told mine and he just made more of an effort to make me feel something

Choux

If you don't feel anything at all during sexual foreplay and intercourse, then you don't have passion going on in your head...something else is happening.

Don't keep doing the same thing over and over if it is unsuccessful!! Think of an athlete...if an athlete trained the wrong way s/he would never be a winner in his sport.

Best to talk to a therapist right away. You may have a head full of illusions-thus a disconnect for passion and orgiastic sex.

Best wishes in 2008,

LostInHisEyez

Thanks to all you guys, but the problem is that i can masturbate fine-without him there- i shy- but when he tries it, or we have sex its just being poked. and we have the passion cuz im the one who always initiates it, but it just doesnt feel right.