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Hoping I can get some advice, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, and every other aspect of our relationship is dead on, we click almost on every level. That being said, there is one aspect of our relationship we don't have, a sex life. We have no intimacy at all beyond kissing and cuddling. We are both in our 20's, and she herself is still a virgin. I have been talking to her about this, though I haven't been pressuring her, but I can only wait so long before I know I myself am not going to care anymore and that will be the end of us, but I don't want that. When we talk about having sex, she doesnt seem to know the reason as to why she doesnt want it herself. I am not sure if its just her being a virgin shes scared, or if there simply is no sex drive (limbido) there. A few times when we have been making out I've tried to innocently see if I could advance a little, and all that happens is she moves my hands away and says no. I've been sitting on the side lines for almost a year now hoping she'd get more confortable and curious and want to engage in sex, but that doesnt seem to be working, is there anything I can do to help our relationship develop a healthy sex life?
How old are you both, and obviously you don't live together, so why should she give in to you if the relationship is so perfect? Admit it, your only in it for the sex. If you cared, you would respect her virginity, and be a man about it. Save this female your false love, and get someone who will give you what you want. It sure ain't love.
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is there anything I can do to help our relationship develop a healthy sex life?
but I can only wait so long before I know I myself am not going to care anymore and that will be the end of us, but I don't want that.
Maybe she thinks thats all you want, and once you get it your going to leave any way. After reading the above, maybe you should just move on, and spare her your selfish, non-respecting ways, in the first place.
A girl does want the first time to be special, with someone special.
Maybe she thinks thats all you want, and once you get it your going to leave any way. After reading the above, maybe you should just move on, and spare her your selfish, non-respecting ways, in the first place.
A girl does want the first time to be special, with someone special.
You never did answer the age question.
I just dont understand when men ask advice about wanting more from a relationship, we are deemed pigs, though I am sure if I was female you wouldnt be so quick to call me scum of the earth. I listed in my first post, we are both in our twenties if it makes any difference our exact age, I am 25 and shes 23.
Do you live together, or apart??? Parents or room mates????
Pig is your word, not mine. And yes, info is needed for a better picture. Specific info. Its quite possible she doesn't see this as a long term relationship, or you as a long term partner. Don't be so sensitive, as I clearly stated what made me think your selfish, and if I'm wrong you have my apologies. Doesn't matter male or female, I just give my honest opinion for you to think about, or discard.