Hoping I can get some advice, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, and every other aspect of our relationship is dead on, we click almost on every level. That being said, there is one aspect of our relationship we don't have, a sex life. We have no intimacy at all beyond kissing and cuddling. We are both in our 20's, and she herself is still a virgin. I have been talking to her about this, though I haven't been pressuring her, but I can only wait so long before I know I myself am not going to care anymore and that will be the end of us, but I don't want that. When we talk about having sex, she doesnt seem to know the reason as to why she doesnt want it herself. I am not sure if its just her being a virgin shes scared, or if there simply is no sex drive (limbido) there. A few times when we have been making out I've tried to innocently see if I could advance a little, and all that happens is she moves my hands away and says no. I've been sitting on the side lines for almost a year now hoping she'd get more confortable and curious and want to engage in sex, but that doesnt seem to be working, is there anything I can do to help our relationship develop a healthy sex life?

talaniman

Smoky?????????????

I thought every one was free to comment, are you off your meds?

Choux

"talaniman disagrees: What lousy advice to young people, "grow up and give it up," thats shameful."

THIS IS WHAT YOU OWE ME AN APOLOGY FOR, TALLYMAN.

Synnen

If you don't both shut up and quit arguing in SOMEONE ELSE'S question, I will delete ALL of your advice, from both of you, from this entire question.

ENOUGH.

You disagree, you both played with reddies, and now you are BOTH being jerks about it.

I don't care who started it...it's now DONE.

Talk to the OP, not to each other, and you can still post in this thread. Be mean to each other in even ONE MORE POST in this thread, and you will BOTH have ALL of your posts deleted.

I don't want an apology from either of you---though I do think that some of the advice given in this thread was apalling--I just want the arguing to stop unless you either a) take it to PMs or b) take it to a member's discussion thread. All you are doing at this point is hijacking the OPs thread. Take the discussion about whether or not they were good answers to another thread.

Choux

You're the boss.