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Hoping I can get some advice, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, and every other aspect of our relationship is dead on, we click almost on every level. That being said, there is one aspect of our relationship we don't have, a sex life. We have no intimacy at all beyond kissing and cuddling. We are both in our 20's, and she herself is still a virgin. I have been talking to her about this, though I haven't been pressuring her, but I can only wait so long before I know I myself am not going to care anymore and that will be the end of us, but I don't want that. When we talk about having sex, she doesnt seem to know the reason as to why she doesnt want it herself. I am not sure if its just her being a virgin shes scared, or if there simply is no sex drive (limbido) there. A few times when we have been making out I've tried to innocently see if I could advance a little, and all that happens is she moves my hands away and says no. I've been sitting on the side lines for almost a year now hoping she'd get more confortable and curious and want to engage in sex, but that doesnt seem to be working, is there anything I can do to help our relationship develop a healthy sex life?
You made it personal with your reddie so you first! We can debate all day, but why take it personal??? I have never attacked you, thats your opinion also.
Deal with it. Not all women want to or are willing to be someones booty call until the ring is on the finger. Maybe she see's something you aren't recognising.
Respect her wishes or find a new girl friend/ concubine.
Just because she won't put out now doesn't mean she won't make a great wife or be great in bed after you are married.
Hoping I can get some advice, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, and every other aspect of our relationship is dead on, we click almost on every level. That being said, there is one aspect of our relationship we don't have, a sex life. We have no intimacy at all beyond kissing and cuddling. We are both in our 20's, and she herself is still a virgin. I have been talking to her about this, though I haven't been pressuring her, but I can only wait so long before I know I myself am not going to care anymore and that will be the end of us, but I don't want that. When we talk about having sex, she doesnt seem to know the reason as to why she doesnt want it herself. I am not sure if its just her being a virgin shes scared, or if there simply is no sex drive (limbido) there. A few times when we have been making out I've tried to innocently see if I could advance a little, and all that happens is she moves my hands away and says no. I've been sitting on the side lines for almost a year now hoping she'd get more confortable and curious and want to engage in sex, but that doesnt seem to be working, is there anything I can do to help our relationship develop a healthy sex life?
Time. She isn't ready and you have to respect her for that. If you are the one, how special will that be? Be patient..
**HE ASKED FOR THE ADVICE**....correct, **HE** has to put the *quality moves* on this ADULT woman....if she wants to be seduced AFTER THIS LONG YEAR OF COURTSHIP, she will accept his invitation.
How many date rapes have been atributed to a guy that thinks a woman can be persuaded into putting out when she obviously isn't ready to?
Thats more the point. They may both be adults but if they both don't want to do this its a gnats hair from being a rape. I'm not saying this is the case, but if the guy doesn't take a step back when the woman says no it can happen all to easily.