| well... a woman might try out new things for a lot of reasons... one of which, in my experience, is that women are more open to thinking about sex in terms of what feels good and what connects the mental to the physical.
maybe im not clear there. mkay... a guy gets hard and most of the time its some verson of push/pull and he will get off. hand... mouth... vagina... etc... the pattern works for the most part.
my experience is that women can, but not all and not always, have a lot more work to do to make sex something they can get off with. point blank, i know for certain i have not satisfied every woman, every time. one girl was money in the bank once i learned the things she needed... but it took work, talk, and "testing"... we had to try different things. plus, her body was just wired for sex...as much as i felt like the king of the bedroom with her, that girl could almost get off in tight pants. she was wired differently than most.
another partner... no matter how much i did what she had said shed respond to... she got off probably no more than a third of the time with intercourse... and thats the top success rate... she might have been closer to 20% intercourse, with me doing all the things she "needed"... oral with her worked a lot better. self stim with intercourse worked a lot better than without... but point is, if she didnt try different things, she would have just had sex from a "service" position. no pleasure for her.
ever read cosmo? not like, do you have a subscription... but do you ever look at the cover in the store? every month it is about the latest, greatest sexual tips. every single month. now... maybe its promo'd toward younger women who arent as experienced and who need some help... but look at the threads here... there are a lot of women who struggle getting satisfaction in bed.
sometimes its the lazy guys fault... but sometimes they cant get themselves off. their mental and physical response to the "do step one, two, three" isnt the same as many other women...
so... all the crap i just spewed was just to say dont be suspicious if she tries new things. that alone doesnt mean a thing. ive been with my partner ten years. i read a book two months ago that led me to try a couple of new things in bed. it worked. yippie. we have over a dozen books on sex and sensuality... so trying out different stuff doesnt mean she is learning new things from another man.
so what else do you have?
you wouldnt have posted if you werent concerned.
is her drive lower? is she acting colder? are you nervous because youve been cheated on? or are you just normally wound up like this?
unless you are willing to deal with what has you nervous, you wont get to the root of the problem.
students in medical school are notorious for diagnosing themselves with the disease of the week... week after week. if you think something "points" toward cheating, you will "see it"...
so whats going on? whats the real picture? | 
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