I've just split up form my girlfriend and we were together for about 18 months. We had sex a lot it was one of are ways of making up after an argument or to kind of spice are love life up a little. Now were finished i feel like i really need it! I still keep in contact with my ex and she says the same thing and there have been occasions when we have had sex and were not even seeing each other. I know i really shouldnt do that but i just feel like i need sex and i feel like im proper odd because i dont no anyone who seems to need it as much as me!

x-mo-x

i no thats not love!!! im in love at the moment but the guy i love finished with me so im a bit down at the moment and really miss him, he was such a great guy, but i also miss the sex im not looking for love now, but wudnt mind a f*** buddy. would love 2 get back with him even more but thats not gunna happen!!! i no wher ya coming from but me an u (jesushelper) we r jus completly different from the sounds of it!!!

Jesushelper76

There is nothing wrong with having differences. Like I said before it is your choice how you live your life. Not mine. (;

ladymystery

i know wt u mean nd it is quite tru i lost my virginity wen i was 13 nd i know i was young but i did it coz i loved dat person but he used me and now i want to hav sex agen more but i find it hard to look 4 sum1 o find sum1 decent duz any1 eel da same?

EnglishRose

I really dont understand why people have gone on the moral high ground here. This poor guy has no said he is looking for a buddy of any kind, he just wants to know that what he is feeling is normal. Going from a relationship where you have sex on a regular basis to not having sex at all can be really difficult, especially when you have a high sex drive. The feeling will probably calm down after a while, but sleeping with an ex is not a good idea. It will cause confuse feelings and could leave one of you getting hurt. I do, however, apprieciate why you do it. It is easily done and can seem so natural in the heat of the moment. If you have feelings for that person and your not used to not being able to touch them the you think about them more. The more it is on your mind the more you will talk about it. Once youve both talked about it and know that you are both feeling the same there seems to be nothing to stop you. I dont think age will make a difference to these feelings, although maybe age will bring more self control. I also dont think this in any way suggests that your relationship was based on sex.
Also I dont think a 'buddy' is an immaturity thing, but it is obviously going to be something that people have different views on. I dont think these are just down to religion and age but I admit that my generation seem to be a lot more open about it than the one above, but then again, look at what happened in the sixties! maybe the term ' buddy' itself might suggest a younger person but 'casual relationships' happen when people are older all the time.
I really think the disagree button should be changed to to helpful and unhelpful because taking points from someone for giving advice you dont personally agree with is harsh but taking them away for un helpful or detrimental advice is fair enough.

tinujatinpatel

Ok First you may want to evaluate the science of what happens when you are having sex with a person.

1. Share fluids togethers -- I believe this forms a bond with that person.
2. Share emotions --- This is what I call sex talk. That is you are actually talking a different language when having sex. The moaning the groaning are all ways in which each of you are communicating.
3. Spiritual -- You entire body knows what your partner feels like. Those that are very careful know there partner if under a blindfold, because they pay attention to smells and texture as well as moaning and heaving breating.


What happens when you break up with a person?

Its sort of liking tring to burn up the other person in your mind as if it never happened. In a dark corner of your mind, you actually wish you never met this person. Because its hard to let go. In effect you want this person to be dead for you unreachable.

This is how to really evaluate whether your relationship with your girlfriend was productive or not.

1. Did she give you good sex?
2. Did you breakup for worthless reasons?
3. Do you want to marry her and be satisfied?

Always remember sex is the taste in good food. Marriage is the nutrients of that food for the body. When we eat together with someone we always want to taste someone else's food. That is called coventing. If you are satisfied with your girl friend, then let her know this. If she values your satisfaction from her and know that it will bring a fruitful marriage, then GOD has to do everything to support you. Of this there is no doubt because it my story. Remember the hardest discipline for a normal man is sexual discipline but with GOD's strength it becomes easy.


GOD BLESS>>>