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I just started dating a 32 yr old woman and I am 26. I have always been able to give a woman an orgasm but the oldest i have slept with untill now is 25. She says its harder to give an older woman an orgasim, is this true??? I thought a woman in their thirtys got an orgasm easier?
Orgasm is easier when a woman knows herself better--regardless of age.
I think what gets harder as you get older is that it's harder to relax, and 90% of a woman's erogenous zones are between her ears. If she's not mentally turned on, it's hard to be completely into the moment...and therefore harder to orgasm.
According to different studies, it seems that about only 50% of women are orgasmic, and only 15% of women have multiple orgasms.
My opinion is that once a woman becomes fully orgasmic in her 20's(or perhaps earlier), it becomes easier and easier for a woman to climax. After a certain age(50's-60's) depending on health...that is, neuropathy or poor blood circulation.... lack of healthy nerves and blood vessels slows down a woman's ability to orgasm.
BTW, men don't give women orgasms, women give themselves orgasms...it's all about what goes on in her head.
i think it depends completely on the woman, not on the age. *edited in* by depends on the woman, i meant one woman can be the same age but very different than the next. i did not mean to imply that the experience, knowledge, and abilities of the man are irrelevent *edited in*
the things that help your libido and your ability to hit orgasm are knowledge, mental state, and physical state.
obviously the more you learn and experience, the better you might be able to reach orgasm. that said, the woman i dated that was the easiest to get to orgasm was 20. her body was just wired for sex, she could take direct, strong stimulation, and she could mentally be in the moment at any moment. so... knowing what you need is important, but some people needs less stim to get there. my partner is more "work" than that girl was, but with her knowledge and experience she can get there just fine.
mental state is tied to a lot of things. the young inexperienced woman or man are primed by just the prospect of sex and the newness, the discovery. not saying you still dont have much of those feelings later, but the intensity of it all, i think, can be compounded when you havent experienced it so much.
also, life and experiences can get in the way. the person who is working her arse off at work, stressed by bills, or haunted by less than great experiences in the past can have emotional barriers to overcome or mental blocks. if my partner is going to have a rough day at work and knows it... theres little i can do to get her to mentally relax, even if i do all the "right" things.
and physically there can be issues, young or old. what some might call "good, clean" living is better to amp up libido and keep your body in balance. good sleep, regular exercise, no smoking, etc... all can help. and also changes in hormones as you age can alter libido, wetness, etc. so is she fit, active, getting good sleep, etc... all can help.
but dont take what ive said as meaning one is easier to get to orgasm than another. there are 18 year old and 38 year olds who will write in here about difficulties reaching orgasm.
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