Do condoms make sex less pleasurable for men?

sandalwood7 · #1 Oct 6, 2009, 10:06 PM

This is a simple question. Do condoms make sex less pleasurable for men? I really need to know how much of a problem this can be for a man. Should a man be understanding enough to wear a condom if other forms of contraception are not an option? In a long term relationship is it unreasonable to expect condom use? Is sex with a condom better than no sex at all? Do condoms hurt? Is there anything that someone can do to make using condoms not such a big deal? I dont feel comfortable not using condoms when I cant afford to get pregnant. Also would rather be safe until sti checkups complete. I would really appreciate honest answers..... especially from men.

KeepItSimpleStupid · Oct 6, 2009, 10:31 PM

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This is a simple question. Do condoms make sex less pleasurable for men?

Yes (same goes for women) Although men and women can have the fear of pregnancy thus without it can be less pleasurable. So it can go both ways. Condoms cut down on sensitivity. Sometimes good. Sometimes bad. Both answers are correct. If you ask, "Does sex feel better without a condom?" then the answer is yes.

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I really need to know how much of a problem this can be for a man. Should a man be understanding enough to wear a condom if other forms of contraception are not an option?

Yes, but he tends to think with the little head.

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In a long term relationship is it unreasonable to expect condom use?

long-term vs trusted monogomous relationship. Again many men think with the little head. What's long term - 6 mo or 5 years.

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Is sex with a condom better than no sex at all?

Yes.

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Do condoms hurt?

No

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Is there anything that someone can do to make using condoms not such a big deal?

Yep, have the female put it on as part of the lovemaking process.

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I dont feel comfortable not using condoms when I cant afford to get pregnant. Also would rather be safe until sti checkups complete. I would really appreciate honest answers..... especially from men.

Yep.

sandalwood7 · Oct 6, 2009, 10:38 PM

BF says he doesnt feel like having sex much now and condoms are 50% of the problem. He said he would rather not be bothered with the hassle. He says they hurt but I buy special xxlarge condoms for his x-large penis which fit pretty good I thought. I cant take the pill because of medical reasons. I always put the condom on and try to do it quickly and without a big hassle and give him head at the same time to keep him hard.
I really dont know what to do now. We are 10 months into a relationship.

KeepItSimpleStupid · Oct 6, 2009, 11:57 PM

Female condom?

The Female Condom

jmjoseph · Oct 7, 2009, 01:02 AM

Yes, it does cut down on the pleasure of sex. However,they are always better than the alternative.

mudweiser · Oct 7, 2009, 01:45 AM

How about an IUD?

Can you take the depovera shot?

-- personally, I feel like the female condom is a major turn off. It's so huge and feels like a garbage bag for your vagina.

More disadvantages:
• he outer ring or frame is visible outside the vagina, which can make some women feel self-conscious
• female condoms can make noises during intercourse (adding more lubricant can lessen this problem)
• Some women find the female condom hard to insert and to remove
• It has a higher failure rate in preventing pregnancy than non-barrier methods such as the pill
• It is relatively expensive and relatively limited in availability in some countries
• It is recommended that the female condom be used only once

Here are other contraceptive methods:

Also see: Pros and Cons of Different Contraception

Sarah

sandalwood7 · Oct 7, 2009, 02:46 AM

Oh my god! That female condom is scary! Thanks guys for your advice......

smoothy · Oct 7, 2009, 05:12 AM

From a guys perspective. Condoms DO reduce pleasure.

However, the reality of sex in the last 30 years since AIDS came onto the scene as well as herpes...unless you are married and faithful they are an absolute MUST USE. People are rarely honest with where they have played and with who. And odds are you have forgotten about a person before you would even find out you contracted AIDS from them.....long incubation period means its near impossible to know who you got it from unless they were the ONLY person you slept with. And you will never know thos the people they slept with had slept with....and you see the logrithmic progression there.

So wearing a raincoat is important in some cases and better than spanking the monkey. Even before you consider the pregnacy aspect.

redhed35 · Oct 7, 2009, 05:18 AM

some of the ribbed condoms can be quite pleasurable,there is such a massive range on the market,flavoured included..

however i have never come across a man who decided against having sex because he did not want to wear a condom.

a diafram (sp) may be a solution,if your in a long term relationship.

Synnen · Oct 7, 2009, 07:22 AM

Let me put it this way:

If you don't want to get pregnant, he should be taking at LEAST half the steps to prevent pregnancy.

A condom is NOT a hassle. Believe me--a NEWBORN is a hassle.

No glove = no love.

PS--you're only 10 months in. Ditch this guy and find someone who cares more about YOU than about whether or not sex feels better without a condom. No guy that ever really cared for me EVER put up a fuss about wearing one.



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