My 18-year-old daughter is in a sexual relationship with her long-time boyfriend. She and I are very close, and she has been open with me about being sexually active. This boyfriend was her first sexual relationship, and she came to me for birth control and condoms, which I provided.

Although we've discussed sex openly, I have come across a difficult topic that I think needs to be addressed. I overheard a conversation between her and her boyfriend, and it was revealed that they have tried anal sex at least once, and they didn't...ummm..."know what they were doing". What I mean by that is that they were going about this without certain knowledge that is important in perventing injury and/or infection.

So, I have this information about what they're doing (or did at least once), and although it's an uncomfortable topic, I feel strongly that I should discuss this with my daughter. I do not want her to get hurt or engage in anything dangerous. Does anyone have any advice about how in the world I would bring this subject up with her?

smoothy

This is a rough concept to make...I don't have a daughter and as close and open as my relationship with my parents has been I still can't grasp discussing this with either of them.

americangayboy

OOO, I just saw my post and the webpage I inserted came out a bit off...there isn't a picture of genital herpes on this page, it is an FAQ about anal intercourse. Sorry for any confusion!

smoothy

Genital Warts, any STD, and this is the most receptive route for the AIDS virus as well. Plenty of things to worry about, just because its not easy to get pregnant with anal sex its no reason to forgo condoms. She might now where she's been, but how can she know where he's been as well as anyone he has been with and so on.