help it hurt when i got fingered

sarah_hocchi · #1 Jan 14, 2006, 10:34 PM

hi i got fingered a few days ago and it really hurt...i dont know what happened...he also went in me really fast n i think he was a bit ruff...are theere any reasons why it hurt soo bad i had to make him stop.. please help

DrJizzle · Jan 16, 2006, 05:15 PM

what kind of pain was it? There could be a couple different reasons for this. If it was a sharp pain, it could be that, if his fingernails werent trimmed, he may have actually cut you a little with his nails. If it was a duller pain, it may simply be that he was a little too rough and you werent reasy for such penetration.

letmetellu · Jan 16, 2006, 06:59 PM

I was just wondering if you have been fingered before and id it hurt then. If it didn't it must be something about the one particalur guy. Like Dr Jizzle said above it could be his fingernail or your were not moist and instead of his finger slipping is easily it pushed your skin in instead of just slipping by it. Or he could have just been a rough guy and didn't know what he was doing. I have a sugestion. make yourself hot and try inserting your on finger and see how it feels.

PrettyLady · Jan 16, 2006, 11:47 PM

No kind of sex play is supposed to hurt. People should tell their partners what feels good and what doesn't. The problem could be that your not relaxed or aroused, be sure your boyfriend takes his time when he intimately touches you. You may also need to spend a little time figuring out exactly how it needs to be done so you enjoy it. However, if you continue to experience pain upon penetration, I suggest you see a doctor to make sure everything is okay.

DJ 'H' · Jan 17, 2006, 02:26 AM

well sometimes a guy can be a little rough. It all depends on his technique.

An ex of mine did it to me once, and it hurt like hell 1) because his finger nails were too long and kept catching me 2) because he was going too fast and just not taking the time to let me properly enjoy it. It had not happened to me before and it did not happen again afterwards.

It could be the same thing, or it could be different.

How old are you? Was it your first time?

DrJizzle · Jan 18, 2006, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettynPetite1

People should tell their partners what feels good and what doesn't.

I dont agree with this for everyone. Sure, some parents have a relationship with thier children where they can openly talk about their sexual experiences but I think they are definitely in the minority. I couldnt EVER imagine my sister telling my mom or dad that it hurt when her boyfriend was fingerign her. She probably wouldnt live to tell about it.

PrettyLady · Jan 18, 2006, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by DrJizzle

I dont agree with this for everyone. Sure, some parents have a relationship with thier children where they can openly talk about their sexual experiences but I think they are definitely in the minority. I couldnt EVER imagine my sister telling my mom or dad that it hurt when her boyfriend was fingerign her. She probably wouldnt live to tell about it.

Sweetie, "partner" is another word for spouse or lover. Most people call their spouse or lover their partners.

DrJizzle · Jan 18, 2006, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettynPetite1

Sweetie, "partner" is another word for spouse or lover. Most people call their spouse or lover their partners.

LMAO!! oh you said PARTNER!! ....for some reason my eyes saw PARENTS!! lol I was like, "why the hell would someone want to tell their PARENTS about something like this?!?" lol

im sorry.... my bad

sarah_hocchi · Jan 18, 2006, 06:32 PM

hi thanx for the feed back..no it not my first time i am 16..i have been fingered a few times more then 10..and every time i have ever got fingered i cant feel any thing good i dont get an orgasim....is there somethign wrogn this is the first time i have hurt the other times i jsut dont feeling any thing..please reply

Quote:

Originally Posted by DJ 'H'

well sometimes a guy can be a little rough. It all depends on his technique.

An ex of mine did it to me once, and it hurt like hell 1) because his finger nails were too long and kept catching me 2) because he was going too fast and just not taking the time to let me properly enjoy it. It had not happened to me before and it did not happen again afterwards.

It could be the same thing, or it could be different.

How old are you? Was it your first time?

sarah_hocchi · Jan 18, 2006, 06:35 PM

i dont remember the type of pain all i remember is that it hurt soo bad i could have cryed...he was goin rough but it was like the other times he did it...but i remeber he was really quick wit going in....also the other times he has fingered me i have never felt any thing i cant get an orgasim..is there somethign wrong with this...i have never felt enjoyment when i have ever gotten fingered. please reply

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Originally Posted by DrJizzle

what kind of pain was it? There could be a couple different reasons for this. If it was a sharp pain, it could be that, if his fingernails werent trimmed, he may have actually cut you a little with his nails. If it was a duller pain, it may simply be that he was a little too rough and you werent reasy for such penetration.



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