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Asked Jan 14, 2009, 10:46 AM — 13 Answers
This is really frustrating and horrible, I can't describe how I feel. I am heart broken. I went (to my girlfriend's house) to give her a surprise, and the surprise was for me.

I found this girl that I have been dating, having sex with her father. She is 27 and he is 69.

I confronted her, and she tried to deny it, but after a long conversation, she admitted that if it weren't for being caught in the act,she would still be denying it. She also told me it is not the first time, it's been happening since she was a little girl, and she gets really aroused, even though she says she doesn't want to do it.

When he calls, she keeps visiting him. They don't live together, and it happends in the middle of the night.

She has 2 little girls, and I don't know what to do. She needs help, and even though I am not going to continue with her, I would like to help because I love her.

Is there anything that I can do, or should I just walk away ?


Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Summary Due to the shocking implications of the question, some users questioned the authenticity of the story. If this sexual relationship indeed exists, users agree with Rodrigula that he should cease the relationship as his girlfriend has emotional and mental health issues which do not lend themselves to being in a healthy adult relationship.

Users suggested that he consider the legal implications of what his girlfriend is doing, both as a past offense when it would have been molestation/endangering a minor, and the present issues of Adult Incest and the safety of her children. The first priority needs to be the children.
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Jan 16, 2009, 10:57 AM
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Although I admit there are a lot of problems here, calling Child Services won't really do much, as she is 27 and legally an adult. She is breaking the law, but chances are, they will both deny this claim.
No they probably won't help her, but she has 2 little girls...
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Jan 16, 2009, 11:36 AM
Your girlfriend might want to stop but don't know how or feels obligated to have sex with her father. She been sexual abused by him who knows for how long. She is victim while her dad is the predator. She needs help and he might can still go to jail for his crimes he commit aganist. Can you imagine what life was like for her? I know you don't know th answer to this question but is there's a possibilty that he might be the father to one or both of his grandkids? He's a sick man and there is a place for him in hell. I hope your girlfriend gets the help she needs and even if your don't remain together I hope you can help her along the way by being her friend because she going need a shoulder to lean on for support. I glad that this is out however I sorry this happen to you but everything happens for a reason. Maybe you was met to cross path with this girl to help her help herself and it starts with her wanting help.

I think the kids should be evaluated by a professional for possible abuse. So contacted social services isn't a bad idea.
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lawanwadee Posts: 3,463, Reputation: 621
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Jan 18, 2009, 10:34 PM
Contact Child Protective Service ASAP.... Otherwise the 2 little kids will be next.

Reporting Child Sexual Abuse
All 50 states require that professionals who work with children report reasonable suspicions of child abuse. Some states require that anyone with suspicions report it. Information about each state�s requirements is available at Child Welfare Information Gateway or call the ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline, 1-800-422-4453.

If you are a professional who works with children (e.g., a teacher, a nurse), there are special procedures and reporting requirements you must follow. Your employer should provide mandated reporting training.

Know the agencies that handle reports of child abuse.

* Two agencies handle most reports of child abuse
o Child Protective Services (in some states this agency has a different name)
o The police
* Some states designate Child Protective Services as the agency that accepts reports of suspected child abuse. Others designate the police.
Some do not designate or designate both. Many states have centralized toll-free lines that accepts reports of abuse from the entire state. To find out where to make a report in your state, visit Publications Resource List or call the ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline, 1-800-422-4453.
* If the legal system does not provide adequate protection for a child, call Justice for Children (713-225-4357) or Justice For Children.

What if I�m not sure? Where do I go?

* Child advocacy centers coordinate all the professionals (legal and social services) involved in a case. If you�re unsure about whether to make an official report or just need support, contact a child advocacy center. They will help you evaluate your suspicions. To find one near you, contact National Children�s Alliance at www.nca-online.org or 1-800-239-9950.
* Child Abuse Helplines have staff specifically trained to deal with questions about suspected child sexual abuse. Call Darkness to Light�s helpline, 1-866-FOR-LIGHT to be routed to resources in your own community, or call the ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline, 1-800-4-A-CHILD
* Local Community Agencies, such as local hotlines, United Way offices, or rape crisis centers can often help
* Talk to the child�s parents (as long as they are not the abusers) and provide educational materials, such as the 7 Steps booklet. If the parent seems indifferent or unlikely to take action, call one of the other recommended sources.

These resources can help if you are unsure about whether abuse has occurred, but they do not substitute for making an official report. Remember that you may be a mandated reporter in your state and you may be the only source of protection that the child has.
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Jan 19, 2009, 01:19 AM
>Thread Closed<
As OP hasn't returned
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