Well I may only be 18 years old, but I've been sexually active since 14. The girl I'm with currently is actually the girl I lost my virginity to years ago(on my 14th birthday!). She, along with anyone else who knows me, knows that I pride myself on being "manly", I like yard work, lifting weights, my facial hair, wearing flannel shirts, you know how it is. She's told me over the years how great I am at giving her oral, which obviously gave me a lot of sexual confidence, along with the fact of her obvious orgasms when I'm going down on her.
When it comes to sitting my face between those legs, I'm at my second home, I'm confident, comfortable, and relaxed. Now I guess in my ego boost of my "oral skills", I lost my head and took my mind off what "really counts", intercourse! Just to clarify, we dated for a few years when we were younger, and recently over the last few months gotten back together. Since then yes we've had sex, only a few times. I'm always on top of my game, so I thought. I know that mood, and foreplay plays a large role in a woman's ability to orgasm through intercourse and I always take the time to make this right. She's only had one other sexual partner, and one orgasm through intercourse(which wasn't me ). It hadn't occurred to me that apparently I'm lame in the sack, and this has been a gigantic blow to my self confidence, I try not to let it show because I know she'll never have one if I'm making it a big problem. She's tried herself(masturbating) but is only capable of clitoral orgasms, which is fine I guess? Well basically it started when she had told me that she wasn't orgasming, and don't knock me folks, I take a prescription that makes it... difficult for me to climax so I can go all day long! I'm an average sized guy(I'm sure you're not all Ron Jeremy's yourselves! just under 6"x4.5"). She's difficult to talk to about sex, she gets embarrassed and tells me it doesn't matter, that may be, but getting her off I feel as a man is my duty and in all seriousness, this has kept me up nights now, and it's getting old. She dropped a bomb on me just the other night and told me that when I'm inside her, she can barely feel me, as any man reading this knows, this is the worst thing we could ever hear. I felt my heart sink into my stomach and we haven't talked about it since. Any of you guru's out there please lend me a helping hand, point me in the direction of positions that best stimulate the clitoris? She's not up for self stimulation during sex, and as a "man" I really want to get this done with my other head if you know what I mean. Please help a newbie out, I love this girl and pleasing her means everything to me. I've tried giving her oral first, I've tried nearly everything.

simoneaugie

It"s sad for me to think that you feel down since she told you she can't feel you. Like someone already said, often the inexperienced equate the penis with the vagina. The vagina (with the exeption of a sensitized G-spot) has about as much feeling as the inside of your mouth. You can "feel" but it frequently is only pressure while a guy is getting his jollies going in, and out and in and out. It can be kind of a bore.

Some women can only experience clitoral orgasms. I thought I was one of those women, until a guy tried the in-out stuff at an angle, pressure and speed that I had demonstrated while on top. What feels awesome to her, may be only mediocre to you. The vagina is not the inverted 'penis' of a woman. A woman's penis is her clitoris, although the type of stimulation each clitoris wants is different.

I disagree that a young woman only wants to cuddle. Bull! Women want to have orgasms. And, men are not responsible for a woman's orgasmic response, but you can be very, very involved!

charlotte234s

There are some positions in which there is little sensation for me, as well, but others that are amazing! It does not have much to do with size, you don't need to be Ron Jeremy to please a woman.Try doing the spoon position, or some other position where you can be behind your partner, perhaps even doggy-style, but you said she is shy, so that may not work out so well. If you can get her on top, try reverse cowgirl, she's bound to feel that. Good luck, and just keep trying!

bostonbruiser

Thanks for all the insight =)