am a guy. am married.

i am high in passion, but my wife is often tired so no sex. this lead to numerous fights.
i met a married lady, was instantly attracted to her. we both fell in love with each other.
she has a happy marriage, good sex life too. but for her i am her soulmate.

for me too initially i was attracted sexually but i know now shes my soulmate.

i have stoped requesting sex to my wife - unless my wife asks for it.

the lady i love is far away. we cant have sex, or show our emotions. we have decided to stay married as her hubby is nice guy and she has kids. i too have a kid.
we will be the best of soulmates for each other.

i abstain sex with my wife unless she asks for it. my wife rarely asks for sex. but my sexual urge, passion is too high. how do i control it.

bcos i love the lady - i have stopped mastrubation too, as i want to do all things only for the lady i love. i want to lie only for her.

tell me how to control my urge and passion.

Krs

I think you seriously need to have a proper chat with your wife. Emotionally you are already cheating on your wife, very uncalled for.
COMMUNICATION is the key.

Have u asked why your wife why she is not into havin sex?

closefriend29

thx, krs.

i are in this marriage only for the kid. we dont see eye to eye in anything.

am just 32, wife is 30.

Krs

Im sorry to hear this

Have you tried marriage councelling? Maybe you need to re-kindle your live like the good old days.
Have you tried talkin with your wife about your differences?

Does she feel the same way you do?

closefriend29

now i actually hate her.

she has killed all my passion ... one day at a time. in 3and half years of marriage we must have had sex twice a week initially. now - ha ha - hadnt had for months. and she knows how desperate i am for sex - i can do it even 2-3 tims a day.

i dont to a prostitue just for the lady i love. she is the one who has kept me married - saying the right thing is to do ur duty as a father

Krs

Yes you absolutely need to do your duty as a father, but you also need to consider your happiness and also your wifes happiness.

have you talked to your wife? to be honest i dont think you have.

Most men always have a higher sex driver then women, my husband could have sex every day and im different, 1 week i could have it every day then come a week and i just do without.
Compromise, and communication.

YOUR WIFE NEEDS TO KNOW HOW U FEEL...

Maybe there is a hidden reason as to why she doesnt want sex, who knows if u dont ask her!!?

closefriend29

she knows it all. i told her how much i need it.

just for her, i stopped with her as she didnt want it - even promised - i will do it only when she wants it.

every night i used to mastru / wank in bed - she doesnt even know it

i like oral, she doesnt.

our act is mechanical - just a few minutes - 2-3 minutes

i am so upset trying to control my urge -that i feel like cutting my thing off - so that -there is no penis, no urge!

Krs

how long has this been goin on??

closefriend29

3 months after marriage. krs, i just am tired of life. i cant make love to the woman i love, the woman whom i leave with makes my life a nightmare.

only on the hope of my love - i am living. i am actually living only for her - she is the epitome of pure love and compassion and ideals. her love makes me do my duties of a father as she considers my son as her own.

Krs

I believe you should your wife know how you feel. Come to some agreement you cant carry on living like this.
Its not fair on you and neither on her.