I caught my husband masturbating

Synnen · Jan 15, 2009, 12:58 PM

You get over it by having an open, honest, and non-accusatory conversation with your husband about what you saw.

Xrayman · Jan 15, 2009, 01:51 PM

Discuss it with him. Be nice-it's natural (why don't you do it? And then, Join in! Sex is not just coitus/intercourse.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 15, 2009, 02:46 PM

It is natural, the only sad thing is he felt he had to go to the bath room instead of in bed with you watching or doing it for him

But most likely if he has been 3 or 4 days he was in there,

liz28 · Jan 15, 2009, 03:12 PM

I wished my fianc? Would go to the bathroom sometimes because this is all he been doing since we can't have sex for 6 weeks because we had a baby.

I don't think you should be a big issue out of it because some guys do worst, they cheat instead of doing this. However, if this issue is weighting this much of your mind than talk to him about it along with why the two of you aren't having sex. I think your more upset about not having sex for the last two weeks than this and since you caught him doing this you know he's horny so your thinking why not have sex with me. Have you tried making the first move?

TexasParent · Jan 15, 2009, 06:32 PM

You know sometimes mastubation is simply a stress reliever, especially if it is a bathroom masturbation.

If my partner and I are having a stressful week and I don't think she's in the mood for whatever the cause; sometimes my sexual tension builds up and it needs a release and it is a quick escape from the stresses of the day.

I mean, you could have been in his fantasies doing this and that while he tries to quickly finish.

I don't always want to have sex with my wife and we even masturbate together, sometimes I don't have the time or the energy so a quick masturbation fits the bill.

I wouldn't worry about it to much, but he wouldn't have to hide from you if you were understanding and came to some agreement together.

Exitexchange1 · Jan 16, 2009, 01:47 PM

Well, my husband and I talked about it, and it’s out in the open. I told him that if it makes him feel any better, I had a nice fantasy about him, and had a wonderful orgasm this morning. So my philosophy is, don’t get mad, get even. And let’s get it on together next time!

TexasParent · Jan 16, 2009, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Exitexchange1

Well, my husband and I talked about it, and its out in the open. I told him that if it makes him feel any better, I had a nice fantasy about him, and had a wonderful orgasm this morning. So my philosophy is, don't get mad, get even. And lets get it on together next time!

I'm glad to see you worked it out in such a mature and erotic way; you are a great example of making a marriage work, please post more in these forums for people with similar experiences, your positive solution is an inspiration.

chrissymarie · Jan 16, 2009, 03:41 PM

Just tell him what you saw. Let him know you just have to get it off your chest cuase you've never seen him doing it before. The conversatin that follows should satisfy your curiosity.

TexasParent · Jan 16, 2009, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by chrissymarie

Just tell him what you saw. Let him know you just have to get it off your chest cuase you've never seen him doing it before. The conversatin that follows should satisfy your curiosity.

The OP already handled the solution herself quite successfully.

You would have know this if you had bothered to read any of the posts.

I caught my husband masturbating

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