Hey... im a 19 year old male and i cant seem to ejaculate during sex! i am in a long-term relationship (now jst over 10 months) and scared i might lose it if i dont shape up in the bedroom...

i used to blame the condoms for not giving the full feel but now my girlfriend is on the pill weve started having sex without them, i have managed to ejaculate once before inside her without the help from my hand, but in the few times weve had sex without the condom i felt very very close, i have read many sites looking for help and have come to this one looking for more...

i feel that the main problem is that i used to masturbate alot when i was single, sometimes even twice a day! and have gotten too used to the feel of my hand?? can anyone please help me either someone whos been through this before or someone that knows alot about it.

J_9

Let me start by asking if you are on any medication.

t_2006

nope not on any

J_9

Hmmm,

If I can't help you any, I still want you to understand that the pill is not foolproof. She can still get pregnant. Just ask my 20 year old son and 18 year old son. So pregnancy still can occur.

Back to your problem...

I am wondering if it is stress related at all. It may be an underlying fear that she will get pregnant, so your body does the opposite.

Just a thought.

t_2006

well my girlfriend was always paranoid about the condom when having sex always making sure it was on right etc, i dont really worry about getting her pregnant, its never really feared me...