I have being going out with my boyfriend for about 9 months and we have being having sex for about 5 months. My boyfriend always asks if I feel anything after we’ve had sex, but I always say it feels nice being so close to someone, and that I enjoy giving him pleasure. He say's that all his friends girlfriends orgasm, but I know that a lot of my (girl) friends fake it because they think the guy will like them more. I have heard that most females don’t orgasm until their in their late 20’s, is that true?

Any suggestions, or positions; most helpful, in the hope of a orgasm!

Krs

Well your girl friends are thinking wrong. Ive never heard that the guy will like u more coz they orgasm. I suppose a man himself get pleasure out of seeing the girl orgasm but nothing about liking them more.
Also about havin an orgasm in their late 20's is rubbish too.

Personally i think women orgasm during oral sex not full intercourse.

Are you getting oral sex b4 intercourse?

Jesushelper76

There are people I know, I wont say who. That does orgasm together at the same time. Yes, during intercourse. There is relaxation and foreplay. If there is no foreplay then chanches are there will be no orgasm. Also, A big percentage of women only orgasm through stimulation of the cliterous which usually only happens with the help of fingers.

Joe

Krs

What Jesushelpers76 is saying is correct.
and besides the finger - there's the tongue

Diane3331

I enjoy oral sex, but i think its just a bit icky. I mite try a vibrator!
I dont mind giving oral , but i find the taste of sperm pretty rank.

Krs

why do think its abit icky?
Esp if he enjoys givin u oral sex, then just enjoy even more so yourself

I dont like the taste of sperm either, thats yukky.

fredg

Hi, diane,
At 64 yrs old, I've had my share of sexual experiences!
Not having an orgasm until after the late 20's is not true.
If you are not having one with this boyfriend, then maybe it's time to move on. If he is this "experienced" with the ladies sexually, then he should know what to do for you to have one, too!!
If you wish to try, then just relax. Relaxing is the best way, because having an orgasm is in the mind. Sex is a "mind thing". If you aren't ready, then it won't happen, most of the time, for you.
My own personal feelings is that your relationship with your boyfriend has to get much better before you will be happy with it. He is not as experienced as he says he is!
Talk with him, relax, and just let yourself go, not worrying about it. It will happen for you, and I do wish you the best.

kp2171

there's no one rule fits all. and no, you dont need to be carded/ID'd to get an orgasm.

and a guy might have his ego boosted thinking hes getting you off. wait for the deflation if he finds you are faking it. better to be real... give him a chance to figure it out. give some suggestions. try some things. if he thinks what he is doing is getting you off he will do it again next time.

finding out what can self stim you to orgasm can help.

i dated one girl who could practically orgasm in tight pants. it was sooooo easy to get her to climax, and yes, i know girls can fake it. this girl would never have stayed in a relationship where sex was unsatisfying. intercouse could almost always get her off w the right position and stimulations. she liked oral enough, but intercourse was her thing.

another who could never get off orally (uncomfortable w the idea mentally), but would w intercourse some of the time, not all of the time, not none of the time. hey, you get into the baseball hall of fame bating 30%. =) she also was strongly aroused by g spot, whether self or mate's fingers.

another who can get off most of the time orally unless her mind just isnt in it. some of the time w intercourse, not as much as shed like. never w g spot stim the way the other was. never w strong cl_t stim the way the first one was. more often when she was on top.

so theres a lot to mess around with.

and what stim the guy doesnt always (sometimes never) stim the girl. the one position that is an absolute guarantee to get me over the edge is one of the least likely positions to get my girl over. flippin irony.

so dont accept that you cannot have an orgasm. also, dont put a ton of pressure on the situ. explore for fun and find what feels good. if your guy isnt a gracious lover and willing to help you, well, not very healthy then.

kp2171

oh... and yeah, im a guy so im biased. but the oral sex / sperm taste thing was brought up in this thread so one guys opinion -

had a discussion once in college with about 15 girls and me, the only guy in the room (friends w about half of them and dating one), about oral sex and they all wanted the know the difference in sensation when finished off in hand versus mouth.

all i could say was a great bj ending in hand was almost always outdone by a mediocre bj ending in mouth. the sensation is much more intense in the latter. similar to the decrease in stim by withdrawl in intercourse just before climax.

im not saying you SHOULD do one or the other or neither. and im not saying ending in hand is bad in any way. and ill bet diff guys like diff things. theres other things you can do while oral that can really help. just an fyi, since finishing orally in mouth was mentioned.

Krs

KP2171 sorry didnt the grip of what ur saying.
Correct me if im wrong - so a guy (well most guys) would prefer it if their partner would swallow? instead of pulling out b4 they came or spitting?