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I have being going out with my boyfriend for about 9 months and we have being having sex for about 5 months. My boyfriend always asks if I feel anything after we’ve had sex, but I always say it feels nice being so close to someone, and that I enjoy giving him pleasure. He say's that all his friends girlfriends orgasm, but I know that a lot of my (girl) friends fake it because they think the guy will like them more. I have heard that most females don’t orgasm until their in their late 20’s, is that true?
Any suggestions, or positions; most helpful, in the hope of a orgasm!
If you dont work with your boyfriend, how do you expect him to ever get it right?? Every woman is going to react to things differently. I had a gf like kp not to long ago... you just look at her the right way and she will orgasm!! On the other hand, my current gf is a bit more difficult. But you need to open the lines of communication.... dont be afraid to give him a hand.
However, if you dont know what you like yet, then its time to take matters into your own hands.... you mentioned getting a vibrator. Great idea! You need to learn your body first.... if YOU dont know what you like, how can you expect someone else to?? If you dont have a vibrator, use your God-given tools for the job. You just need to start getting comfortable having orgasms. Make it s daily thing... eventually, you will be able to conrtol your ability to have one easily.
You need to be comfortable in your own mind, too. You cant be worried or scared or nervous or anything like that... all those emotions will kill your chances.
Oh, and did I hear someone say that if he cant get it done that maybe its time to move on??? good god, no!! Geez.... give the poor guy a break! Just because he hasnt been able to give his gf an orgasm yet doesnt mean he should be kicked to the curb!!
I enjoy oral sex, but i think its just a bit icky. I mite try a vibrator!
I dont mind giving oral , but i find the taste of sperm pretty rank.
Many women will agree with you there. I've noticed during some talk sessions that women think that the taste and consistency varies when guys drink alcohol, even eat different things. Some said that it tasted so much like Ajax scouring powder it made them gag. (Sorry guys, but we still love ya anway....)
And, let's not talk about the mind-altering drugs some take.
To avoid the dissapointment during an otherwise wonderful tet-a-tet, try using a condom when doing this, it will make you feel better and both of you will still have fun.
WOW, I just got some new smileys!. Like my new car??
If you and your boyfriend are " having sex " - No wonder you haven't had an orgasm.
"Making love" on the other hand, takes all day, all evening and hopefully - all night.
As a male of the species of more years than I like to admit ( if 62 is higher than 21 - Why do I still think I'm 18 ??? lol) - forget the BJ's and swallowings etc etc ad nausium. Orgasm is exactly the wrong word and attitude.
The proper term - when you think carefully about it is "climax". It is the culmination of a (possibly working) day apart - thinking about each other. The "love making" begins with your first kiss and carries on thoughout the evening - whether in a dance hall, restaurant , concert , art gallery - wherever - you should be "flirting" with each other all night long - building up those feelings. "Maybe's" and "Promises", "Possiblies" and "Definites", "I wills" and "I mights".
The main pre-occupation of the male should be being able to hold back his orgasm until his partner is ready as well - and if he can hold back long enough for a female "multple orgasm" - he is getting the idea.
"Love making" is not "giving her 6 inches" - it is giving himself - as she should be giving to him - it is not essentially a physical act but a total physical and mental act.
The BJ's and oral sex are not "foreplay" - the foreplay is what you should have been doing all evening - oral sex can be or is part of the build up to the final "CLIMAX" - and forget about swallowing - the only way to climax is to be - (excuse the vernacular) "Balls Deep" and trying to get deeper and hanging on to each other for dear life. - and if he's done the job right - there is no way he is going to get out until she has finished with him. What is known in the animal kingdom as being "dog knotted" - here in parts of the UK as being "Fanny clamped" and medically known as "vaginismus".
So the final word is the climax is not something you chase - it is something that catches up with you -- AND HOW
The final, final word - Have fun! ! ! - It is after all the best Fun you can have without laughing - though even this is allowed.
You should talk to him about what you like and dislike.
If you don't now what you like or dislike you need to do a little self exploration.
It will make you and him happier.
You should talk to him about what you like and dislike.
If you don't now what you like or dislike you need to do a little self exploration.
It will make you and him happier.
BUT -- remember it is NOT a competion or quiz - make this part of the foreplay - if you don't try it - how are you going to know if you like it !! !
On a side note as far as the taste of semen:Slightly sweet due to fructose. The taste of semen tends to change slightly from person to person. The diet greatly effects the taste and smell of semen.More importantly Chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV and non gonococcal urethritis can all be transmitted through semen, so use a condom to contain the semen or be sure of your partners sexual health status.
"Making love" on the other hand, takes all day, all evening and hopefully - all night.
as a father of a naughty, curious, and busy two year old, i guess my wife and i are just having sex and chasing orgasms. =)
ah well.
i certainly agree about the metal states that complement and heighten the sexual experience... it is certainly better the more you can get mentally "lost"... but like i said... sometimes a little hurried, imperfect, and not completely romantic sex can get you through the night.
and to those who think those are just the words of another guy being a guy, well.... there are reasons why my wife wakes me up at 4:30am, when the house is still, the baby is asleep, and for a while at least, we can be together.
make love, have sex, climax, orgasm. fail. suceed. try again. and again.
our favorite saying, when we are desperately trying to divert the baby and get some time alone:
lol, I was only able to read a couple of the remarks in this forum, but I have to say!! I was a bit of a late bloomer..I dont know if theres any truth to that! But I was 26 or 27 when I first had the big O. And Im just going to be frank and to the point, try it under running water like the bathtub! thats how I had my first and from then on brainsex(SEX) was a breeze. also I dont know if anyone told you, a woman on top is best thing for the big..O
another thing us late bloomers have our multipal orgasims, I guess good things do come from those who wait. gl
Ok, i have just read all of the above posts and to be quite honest some are good and some not so much however i hop this will help.
Yes i am a guy and oh my god my girlfriend has loads of orgasms (no she doesnt fake - she will tell me if i am not doing it for her).
Start out with the foreplay - not neccessarily oral sex because you dont always need that, depending whether you like hard core or soft gentle its up to you but get yourself on top of him. Dont do the bouncing up and down thing becuase that will do it for him not you.
What you need to do is make sure you are naked so he can see your body, hold his chest and pull and push your body forward and backwards. if the sensations starts to go away, stop for a minute and then carry on. Tell him (yes tell him- men love being dominated) to push his pelvis up and touch your body at the same time.
keep going forward and backwards for a while and eventually you will feel funny and BINGO - you have an orgasm.
REMEMBER - dont have the orgasm in mind because then you are trying to achieve something just let your body relax and close your eyes and focus on the movement and sensation.
I know this sounds weird coming from a guy but both my girlfriend and I are quite verbal about sex and we talk about everything good and bad.
It might not work everytime, but the best way to know if you are ready to get on top is if the breathing is intense and fast because that sets the mood, making some noises works because that turns him on just as much.
I was a bit of a late bloomer..I dont know if theres any truth to that! But I was 26 or 27 when I first had the big O. And Im just going to be frank and to the point, try it under running water like the bathtub! thats how I had my first and from then on brainsex(SEX) was a breeze. also I dont know if anyone told you, a woman on top is best thing for the big..O
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