im 19 and can't seem to keep an erection on a consistant basis. i am very heathly and always had amazing performance in bed until the last year or so. even when i masturbate i cant seem to get it has hard as i used to.

any help is greatly appriciated
thank you

talaniman

A check up wouldn't hurt, and would be a wise move at this point, just to eliminate any unknown medical problems.

Choux

You have to go to your physician immediately. There is no reason to linger in unhappiness for another day.

He/she could find an answer for you.

Make that call!

GUYBRUSH

one time i took dxm Dextromethorphan aka cough suppressant i had the same problem for about a week that's why i stop takeing it good luck medical cannabis might help.

Apocryphy

It is normal and you need to consider that there are still changes going on, although you are about at the time where any more growth testosterone, ect. If you are still exsperiencing this problem a year from now you might want to see a DR. Till then dont worry too much over it cause most likely that is the cause, worry. Try to not focus so much on your erection and rely more on foreplay. Sex is not just about intercourse, think of eating a five course meal, and just have fun with it. ;-)

GUYBRUSH

hea it worked for me like 20 time's a night weed work's. i know FIRST HAND'S EXPIRINCE'S. ITS LIKE A WORK OUT.

kp2171

going to ramble here, as i usually do, and ask a lot of questions.

first, while it can happen, to tell a 19 year old its "normal" is at best using soft gloves. it isnt normal at this age. it happens, but it isnt the status quo. i think the issue i and others have with a two word answer to this post is that it deserves more than a cursory, passing "accept it"... he might have to, true, but theres a lot of ground to cover between here and throwing your hands in the air.

as stated talk to your doctor. dont fret about talking to a doctor about this. they didnt go though years of training to hope people hid their concerns. itll be a process. lots of things can play into this.

are you drinking a lot? have you ever drank a lot for periods at a time? are you exercising? any family issues with vascular health? taking a good multivitamin?

i know you said you are healthy and seem happy. when a person starts to experience issues with less than desirable performance the etiology can be multifaced. it can be a number of little things compounded until it passes a threshold, or it can come from a more singular source.

for ex, as mentioned, depression or poor mental health alone can kill function. meds can. etc... but what about several little things... a lack of exercise, getting poor sleep, insufficient nutrition, small changes in vascular health (which can be tied to genetics and/or the other issues already stated), and anxiety about performance can all add up in bits and pieces.

id try to back off the porn and limit masturbation. some can use this with no decrease in performance. if you are having issues achieving and maintaining a quality erection, it might be worth dropping the self stim and visual satisfaction to get a little pent up. redirect your energy into your bedroom with your partner.

any anxiety about her getting pregnant? is she using, or are you using birth control? are you comfortable in your environment where you are having sex... meaning you arent always trying to sneak sex in without getting caught, you can take the time you need comfortably. mentally you arent rushed or stressed?

you state youve always needed a lot of foreplay to get amped, right? did i read that right? that can tie into the mental side and the ability of your mind to drive your physical side.

as choux stated, issues such as conflicts with sexual identity can come into play. common issues like desensitization from exposure to sex/porn can come into play. lets face it, when i was 16 the slightest peek at a girls bra strap or panty could instantly give a steel piercing hard on... years later, it might create a response... quickened pulse, increased arousal mentally, even some erection... but it isnt the same. yes, this might be part of the "its normal" factor stated earlier... most people experience some level of desensitization. compound it with other things and maybe its a problem.

young men with ED issues often respond well to talking to a counselor who specializes in this area. if going to a therapist sounds like a pain in the arse, try to get over that gut check reaction. if you talk to your doctor, run through your checklist of physical issues that could be at play, run through the lifestyle issues that you can address, and theres still no improvement, its time to talk to a therapist before you just say youll pop an expensive pill.

having gone to a therapist for depression some time back, i can tell you i HATED making the appointment, hated waiting in the lobby, blah blah blah... i walked out better first time. not fixed. still had to talk things out more, but i honestly walked out better... and its something to consider. i tend to try to fix everything on my own. talking to a counselor, one who specializes in sexual health, is simply about getting you tools and knowledge faster then you can get them yourself with reading and education. its just a crash course suited to you. something to think about. again, young men with otherwise healthy bodies who are having issues with erection often respond well to this.

that you need a lot of foreplay isnt a bad thing, but it can point to a delayed physical response... the mental side is your biggest, most important errogenous zone ... simple or complex issues can make your physical response weakened.

dont be too frustrated. you will experience, most likely, some changes over time. some experience it earlier, some barely at all after decades. just as a woman who is experiencing issues attaining orgasm shouldnt just buy a vibe and be done with it (thats not a slam on using vibes, my partner has a little, cute, pink one)... she should educate herself about the mental and physical issues at hand, a man should do the same when performance isnt what you want it to be.

so time to educate yourself and take some action. in the end, even if things arent where you want it to be, youll have better knowledge of your body and you will be in a more powerful place personally.

Andrew78

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shanek1979

I wouldnt bother with the article on the link above. anyone giving medical advice and using the word commoner instead of "more common" is immediately suspicious in my opinion

Also the "squeeze technique" is NOT recommended by doctors! They may however suggest the stop/ start technique.

Its pretty simple starting with foreplay, and stop when you are about to climax. wait, for at least a couple of mins. Obviously during this time, pleasure your girlfriend or she may get bored

Dont worry if you lose your erection at this point, but when your in control stat again, and stop before you climax. you want to keep doing this for at least 15- 20 mins a day.

As i said, inbetween the stop/ start you may soften a bit, dont worry. The end purpose is to train your mind to not "want to climax prematurely". We often forget that the male subconscious WANTS us to ejaculate a.s.a.p. We never used to procreate for fun, look at animals in the wild, the only objective is to impregnate.

A few other points, alot of it may be in your head so relax, trust your girlfriend when she says she wants to work through this with you,take your time and make the effort and it will help.

Having said all of that, i would certainly go to the doctors. ignore the advice that you may be still developing or it may be natural etc. yes it might, but then again it might not. a doctor is there to go to before we have problems as well as during. They will certainly be able to help, even just to talk to, and dont be shy, they really do hear this sort of thing at least twice a week for alot of doctors. 1- 10 men apparently suffer from it.

Good luck I sure you will be ok.

smoothy

Are you sure there isn't a issue with depression or stress?

It might be a good idea to get an appointment with your physician. And discuss this with him. It's possible its a symptom for another undiagnossed problem that you don't want to ignore.

There is a multitude of reasons this may happen. I do assume this is not a one time performance issue and has been occuring for a while.