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So my boyfrned and i have just started to have sex. And there is a problem he finishes in the matter of minutes and can't get it back up for hours. Even when we just fooled around he came within a matter of minutes. I was told that it could be that he just hasn't had sex in a while and that the more that we do it the longer he will last, but even before we had sex and were just fooling around he still didnt last any longer. So is it true that the more we do it the longer he'll last? If not is there something i can do to make him last longer?
Young guys are veritable sex machines, ready to go and come in no time at all. That is very normal. If he can go for 2 minutes, that isn't that short a time period for a youngster getting laid.... and super sensitive.
My husband was a premature ejaculator, and if I remember correctly, he never went longer than 30-45 seconds the entire time we were married. I never considered complaining about it to him because I knew he didn't want to ejaculate so soon and was trying not too.
Anyway, I would suggest that you stop focusing on his penis and perhaps your genitals and intercourse, and both of you focus on all the other areas of the human body that are receptive to touch and stimulation....play and get hot and bothered. Only integrate the genitals when you are both wanting to come in about a minute or so.
There are helpful books to read that teach a person how to pleasure the opposite sex without focusing on the genitals too soon.
I'm 20 and he's 25. And both of us are not each others first. And actually he's more experienced then me. So i'm pretty sure that its not that he's jst young and starting out
my boyfriend use to do it all the time but the trick is to do it for a minute stop for like 20 seconds and pretend you switching positions, then when hes ready to again stop him for ten and switch back or something. i dont know what you prefer but now i can get my boyfriend up to 25min without it
Men can teach themselves to hold back. It's probably easier for some, but they can all learn to. There are books on the subject. Sex is very much a mental exercise. Can you talk to him about lasting longer without putting him down. Can he bring you to orgasm first, without using his penis?
If he does not allow you to climax first through oral or finger stimulation and/or isn't willing to learn to hold back, then he is being both lazy and selfish. So, he gets to choose how he wants to be and you get to choose if you want to live with it or not.
I believe there's a book called "She comes first" and I've heard it does wonders for a lot of couples. I suggest you two start talking about it and work through it.
Even before you hit that, I gotta ask, is he willing to fix it? does he know that he's not satisfying you?
I believe there's a book called "She comes first" and I've heard it does wonders for a lot of couples.
ive mentioned this book so much its almost obnoxious. just wanted to state it wont address anything concerning his longevity. its mostly about foreplay and sensitization with the female in mind, with a push on oral to completion or close to it. if he is really fast, it might not help his situation, but its a simple, good read that a couple can share concerning sex might get the discussion rolling.
This is a head issue, not a head issue, if you know what I mean. I actually mean TWO things: 1) he can learn in his head how to control his orgasm, and 2) he can satisfy you with his tongue even after his weenie gets limp. That's a head issue if he is interested in you.
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