I cant figure out why I dont get turned on anymore

WendieAnn · #1 Jul 30, 2007, 01:39 AM

Here is my problem. I love sex but some how cant relax during sex,but not only that its been at least 6 months sense I orgasmed.I love my husband dearly. But I dont know whats wrong with me. I mean, I can get wet just I cant relax. Its so frustrating!

CaptainRich · Jul 30, 2007, 05:29 AM

Daily stress. Deadlines looming. Upcoming appointments. Alot of things can contribute. What's hubby doing to help or have you told him (guy's can be so unaware) ?

LearningAsIGo · Jul 30, 2007, 05:51 AM

Are you on birth control pills or another prescribed method? Pills especially can cause a drop in physical and emotional libido.

smoothy · Jul 30, 2007, 06:10 AM

The fact you can't relax is why you can't orgasm. Figure out what the source of stress is so you can defuse it and you will likely solve the problem. Few women can orgasm when they are stressed out.

Curlyben · Jul 30, 2007, 06:24 AM

One word
PORN !!!!

WendieAnn · Jul 30, 2007, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by LearningAsIGo

Are you on birth control pills or another prescribed method? Pills especially can cause a drop in physical and emotional libido.

Yes I am on BC. About 6 months ago I was put on a new pill. But I have never had this problem before.....so it is a little odd.

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Originally Posted by CaptainRich

Daily stress. Deadlines looming. Upcoming appointments. Alot of things can contribute. What's hubby doing to help or have you told him (guy's can be so unaware) ?

Well I have talked to him. He has tried diffrent things ....but no anvil. :/

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Originally Posted by Curlyben

One word
PORN !!!!

Sometimes that does help...but not always.

Kattalover · Jul 30, 2007, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by WendieAnn

About 6 months ago I was put on a new pill.

You also state that it's been six months since you last had an orgasm. There might be a connection there. Why were you put on a new pill?

WendieAnn · Jul 30, 2007, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Kattalover

You also state that it's been six months since you last had an orgasm. There might be a connection there. Why were you put on a new pill?

Because the other was to high of a dosage for me.And it was causing me to be severely depressed. Now im on a low dose bc.

Kattalover · Jul 30, 2007, 11:16 AM

Normally, people don't suddenly go from having satisfying sex to anorgasmic for no reason. There is something going on medically/mentally/emotionally, so I'm wondering what started occurring six months ago and is keeping you from enyoying sex to this day.

You state in your signature that you want a baby but your husband wants to wait a couple of years. Is this the only point where you disagree? Are there communication issues? Financial strains? Have you started a new job? Is there anything that turns you off in your or your husband's physical appearance?

WendieAnn · Jul 30, 2007, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Kattalover

Normally, people don't suddenly go from having satisfying sex to anorgasmic for no reason. There is something going on medically/mentally/emotionally, so I'm wondering what started occurring six months ago and is keeping you from enyoying sex to this day.

You state in your signature that you want a baby but your husband wants to wait a couple of years. Is this the only point where you disagree? Are there communication issues? Financial strains? Have you started a new job? Is there anything that turns you off in your or your husband's physical appearance?

Well no. I can wait, right now the baby thing is not an issue.Right now we are having a bit of money problems. I really dont like the way I look at the moment ...I'm 10-15 pounds over weight. And im trying to lose it. I think my husband looks fine.



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