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My boyfriend won't have sex with me or let me touch him.
I'm 20 turning 21 in about 2 weeks. My boyfriend is 25 almost 26. We've been dating for a year December 9th and moved in together about 3 months ago. When we first started dating we were having sex almost 6 times a day. He couldn't keep his hands off me. After about a month it slowed to 3 or 4 times a week. which was fine with me. Then after a bout 3 months wee we're only doing it about once every 3 weeks. Problems really started when he would only have sex with me if I really pushed and he got drunk first. We had sex on our 6 month anniversary only because I pushed for it and he got really drunk first, a full 3 months went past before we had sex a again. This time he wasn't drunk but he asked if I was happy when he finished then turned over and went to sleep. So now it's been 5 1/2 months and we've only had sex once. I keep asking him if i'm doing something wrong or if he's no longer physically attracted to me. He always tells me no, he loves me, I'm his world and that he thinks I'm beautiful. In the past he has been very sexually active, has had many girlfriends, and has admitted to me that he has cheat on almost all of his previous girlfriends with sometimes up to 3 different girls. His friends and Ex's have confirmed this. I know he's not cheating on me though. Over the last 3 years he's become very anti-social he goes to work for a few hours a day, comes home and sits infront of his computer playing games for 12- 20 hours straight then goes to bed. It's the same thing everyday. He hates clubs, doesn't like bars, or large groups of people. When I ask him why he doesn't want to have sex he always says he's not in the mood or he's tired. Even when he's had 3 days off work and all he's done is sit on his computer all day...he's still tired?!! He still looks at internet porn almost every day.I'm a very willing girl. I've tried wearing lingerie and sexy outfits and sexy notes,I'll do things in the bedroom for my guy most girls wouldn't. I get hit on allot by other guys so I guess I'm fairly attractive given most of them are just interested because I have natural 46DDD breasts, but yet my own guy isn't interested and that makes me feel very unattractive. I've told him this, he just says I'm sorry and says he'll try,but nothing ever changes. It's gotten to the point that if i even try to initiate sex or touch him below the waist he pushes my hands away and gets upset. Am I doing something wrong? What can I do to make my guy interested in me again?
Oh honey, I've been in your boat completely. I was dating this guy for almost 3 years, and just like you - at first sex was REALLY important...then it wavered down (which is NOT unusual) Once you get into the "swing" of things in a relationship with someone, and you settle into a groove...you tend to calm down on the sex too. However - I too was fine with doing it a couple times a week - and then it went to once every couple weeks - and then it went months - I tried everything possible, I was practically begging to no avail. As much as I hate to say it - It's not a good sign. I noticed when it started to waver, so did the relationship - it makes you feel lowly to have to beg for attention, and as much as people say sex isn't important, it really is. You need to sit down and have a long talk about it.
Girl pack up all of your things and move somewhere. If all of this happened in such a short time, it will not be long till he does not even want you around. He is a cheater and this is just the first stage of changing sex partners for him. You know he is a cheater. He has admitted it and his friends have confirmed it and he probably cheated on someone to be with you. Find you a guy that will love your 46 DDD and make you an important part of his life.
Girl You Need To Pack Your Bags I Would Say To. He Is Not Giving It To You Because He Is Sleeping With Someone Else. He Is A Man And To Go For Five Months And Only On Time. Either It Is Another Woman Or A Man And That Is The Bottom Line. Believe Me Get Out Of This Relationship Now. He Is Using You To Be At Home Cooking And Cleaning For Him While He Wines And Dines And Has Sex With Another Female.
I know EXACTLY what you're going through....I have the exact problem happening with me right as we speak. The only difference is, that my boyfriend hasn't been with any other women...and so therefore hasn't cheated on anyone before. But I too have tried the sexy outfits and everything, only to be rejected. I've even gone as far as to ask him if he's gay.
I'm about ready to call it quits with him if things dont change soon.
You Should not have to beg for attension let alone sex. If you are unhappy... leave!! you guys have been dating such a short time this should not be happening!!! Find someone who will love you internally as well as physically! Sex is very important in a relationship!
I don't think I would put up with it this long either. If you have tried to find out what is wrong and he won't tell you, then no one can blame you for leaving- you tried. I would wonder, though, if he is depressed. You say he has stopped going out doing anything social, so how could he be cheating? loss of sex drive and changes in behavior are a couple of signs of depression. Big breasts wont do anything about that.
allot by other guys so I guess I'm fairly attractive given most of them are just interested because I have natural 46DDD breasts, but yet my own guy isn't interested and that makes me feel very unattractive. I've told him this, he just says I'm sorry and says he'll try,but nothing ever changes. It's gotten to the point that if i even try to initiate sex or touch him below the waist he pushes my hands away and gets upset. Am I doing something wrong? What can I do to make my guy interested in me again?
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