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I found links on my boyfriend's computer today. He watches porn a LOT and wants sex a LOT.
He really likes anal sex and loves watching anal sex videos.
But I found something else now. There was a clip of gay (guy on guy) porn and several clips of a guy having sex with a transvestite up his/her butt.
What does it mean when a guy like that type of porn, or if a guy watches that type of porn?
I'm worried he may be bisexual or gay and isn't telling me about it. I've asked him about this before and he has said no. Should I confront him with the things I found then?
Don't read anything into it. Maybe its nothing more than a fantasy or was just curious to see it. Just because he didn't delete it doesn't mean he is focused on it.
Have you ever talked to a guy before....if you was intrigued by him did you tell your boyfriend about it? I'll bet you didn't.
Now if you find a photo of him with a guy ....then I think there is something to worry about.
Its a guy thing, we are very visual. Now if its 6 hours a night, every night, then there is a problem (particularly if its the kiddie variety where no amount is ok at all), if its for a little while every night or so thats about normal for most guys.
I do need to throw in the age thing....the younger you are, then more is normal, the older you get the less that will be up to a point it just doesn't matter to many guys. What age are we talking about?
I found links on my boyfriend's computer today. He watches porn a LOT and wants sex a LOT.
He really likes anal sex and loves watching anal sex videos.
But I found something else now. There was a clip of gay (guy on guy) porn and several clips of a guy having sex with a transvestite up his/her butt.
What does it mean when a guy like that type of porn, or if a guy watches that type of porn?
I'm worried he may be bisexual or gay and isn't telling me about it. I've asked him about this before and he has said no. Should I confront him with the things I found then?
I don't want to be lied to anymore.
Porn is normal... If you don't satisfy your man as much as he wants, porn is his alternative... SIMPLE... Nothing bad about it..........
Gay porn ... I'm guessing he did what MOST of us men have done... Clicked on a link at one of those porn sights and went "oh sh!t this is gay stuff" ... There ya go... He accidentally clicked on a dude on dude while clicking 100's of links look for some nice poo-tang
According to my husband: maybe he is curious but most guys think that being gay is not right so if he is looking at gay porn then you should confront him, becuase there might be mixed thoughts about it. Confront him, put a pop up blocker for all porn sites. Men don't are not normally interested in gay porn, it turns them off.
A lot of men (and women) look at porn on the internet, so try not to take it personally or as an insult. Sometimes people just feel like doing something by themselves without having to reciprocate, too.
Keep in mind that with the way you can access just about anything on the net, people tend to look at things now that they probably never would have even considered buying at a brick and mortar store. If you are curious, it is all right there just a click away. It doesn't mean it is your preference, you might just be looking at something for whatever reason.
Also, just because someone enjoys seeing something in porn doesn't necessarily mean they want to act on it in real life. For example, some people might find porn with orgies to be hot, but they would never actually have group sex themselves.
Also, there is a porn slippery slope. You know, you see one thing and then you want to see what else is out there, it's internet curiousity. I think a lot of people can say they've seen some crazy things online, but it doesn't mean they like it.
I think if you confront him about it you'll have a fight and he'll feel as though you've invaded his privacy. I think he'll get defensive and be embarrassed. But, if it is really bothering you I guess you need to give him a chance to explain himself. Just don't expect him to take it well, I don't think he will.
And I really don't think that just having gay porn on his computer makes him bisexual, or even necessarily bi curious. He might have just been plain old curious.
I think the best way to approach this would be, in my humble opinion, saying something along the lines of:
'So the other day I was using the computer, and while looking for some old documents, I came across some adult films and to tell you the truth it's been on my mind since."
How about instead of looking at it as a diversion from you (which it really isn't) try to look at some together and find new things you can do together, or new positions. Taken in the proper context it can really liven up your sex life together rather than the same ole, same ole...if you see what I mean.
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