Me and my boyfriend have a pretty good relationship. We get along great with minimal fighting etc... We are young and like to party a lot and Its been an ongoing issue that he is only excited about sex when were drunk and/or on recreational substances. Obviously sex is more likely to happen when under the influence of drugs and alcohol but I would like to have sex on a regular basis otherwise! I have tried everything. Slinking around in revealing outfits, being suggestive over texts calls notes etc.. Sending dirty pics to put it on his mind for later but when it comes down to it have to practically beg and usually get rejected. Not only do I have needs but this also hurts myself esteem.
The second that a drop of alcohol or other substances enter his system he can't keep his hands off me! Were adults and have jobs and cannot be drinking etc just to keep a decent sex life! I need to figure out what's going on the rest of the time. Is it me? Am I not attractive To him sexually unless he's impaired? Maybe he has a testosterone level issue? I'm not sure... Any advice