Originally Posted by
confusedladyuk
My boyfriend never seem to find me sexy anymore. Weve been together for 4 year and I dont expect it to be like when we first meet. But he never seems interested in me. Even when I make an effort (which I admit may be less than I should) Im a pretty open girlfriend and have tried dressing up for him but he would rather play with his mates on Xbox even when I stood in just heels and underwear in front of him. I myself am a bisexual so I offered to try a 3sum with another girl. But when I say let have a look to see if there are any girls out there that we both like again acts like he's not that interested. I feel like he thinks sex is a chore with me. He goes to strip clubs some time if hes away with work and looks at porn. Which is fine with me but he acts is that they turn him on way more than i ever could. I can understand 4 years living together theres not much he hasnt seen. I know that he never has to see these girls when there ill or looking tired its the fantasy .But I also caught him on some dating websites (adult friend finder/f buddy.com and a bunch more) the other day which he lied about and said he was just look and he would never chat or meet any of these girls then turn out he had been at least talking to girls on them. He says that as far as went and I believe him but he just never makes me feel sexy enough for him. In the past my boyfriends have loved that I want to try new things or explore their fantasies .he never seems that keen Im not big headed but I know Im a pretty girl size 8 good butt small boobs (cant have everything we want) .other men seen more interested in me than he does. Any suggestions ????
I don't like the fact that he was looking at a dating website.
I doubt he would like it either if YOU did.
Are there other things gong on in his life right now? Stressful things?
Have you asked him what he does like to do in the bedroom?
I really don't think I would bring another woman into the mix... That's just me though. It can work for some couples, and some times it can't.
I would suggest talking to him about your concerns. Ask him NICELY to turn off the Xbox and speak to you about this.