ok, now this is so embarssing and I know if he ever stumbled apon this, he'd be heartbroken, however I just cant take it anymore.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years now. He was my first and is still my only. I love him to death!!But when we have sex he's just in it for himself, and by the time he's finished I'm just hornier and want it worst. Its gotten to the point where I'm so sexually frustrated it's affecting my mood daily. Like I dont know.. I just want help. I've told him a MILLION times to stimulate my and to touch me and FOREPLAY!! but it seems like when he wants he (which is almost everyday) he just wants to and then play video games. and dot get me wrong there are time far and few between when he accually TRIES to pleasure me but he just doesnt.
I'm considering getting a vibrator and doing it that way..but im almost like embarssed to use it. and he would be so mad if he found it. I was just wondering if anyone had suggestions for me?
Oh, and its always been this way its not just a recent change. When we first started having sex i thought that maybe it was just because i wasn't experienced enough, bt now im just frustrated.. so thanks ahead of time for suggestions.
Sounds to me like he is selfish and you have conditioned him to remain that way because you keep "giving it up"
You sound young and have already established a bad habit of expecting nothing.
Tell him he either needs to be less selfish with you or leave you alone. You say you love him to death, but you need to love yourself enough not to be used.
First off, there is nothing wrong with using a vibrator. It gets the job done, and since you already know how prolonged sexual frustration feels, I'm betting you have nothing to lose. Even healthy sexual relationships use toys.
Have you tried to sit down and talk to him about this? Young or not, he is being very inconsiderate and selfish. You said he'd be heartbroken, or would his ego be damaged? Theres a difference. If he'd be heartbroken to find this, he wouldn't be so careless of you in bed, which, however you look at it, is a fundamental part of a relationship. Talk talk talk.! Communication is key, and you no longer need to go without.
If that doesn't work, try hopping off of him a couple times before he is satisfied, and see how he likes it. It may sound childish, but he might not know how it feels cause he always makes it to the end. After having that happen a few times, I'm inclined to say that he will definitely work on making you happy.
Don't let him take away your perks as the woman giving him such a great gift!
Don't be embarrassed to get a vibrator. You deserve to be pleasured as well. He reminds me of my ex- husband. He had NO idea what he was doing. I tried telling him, but he just didn't seem interested in Me. Talk to him, tell him you need more. See if he is interested at all. If not, can you live with this for the rest of your life? I hope you will make a good decision. Good luck!
Do you know how to get yourself to orgasm? If not, then I suggest you start figuring it out. That's the first step.
Second step, tell him what you like, where you want to be touched, how hard or soft, guide him.
Talk to him, tell him that you aren't satisfied, that you'd like more, then work together on it, that's what relationships are all about.
Maybe he has no idea that you aren't happy.
A vibrator is a great toy to introduce into a relationship. Don't hide it from him, tell him that you'd like to purchase one, go together, make a day of it and then use it together. This can be a major turn on for both of you and will open the lines of communication.
If you love him then it's worth it, right? Don't expect him to know how to pleasure you, you have to show him the way.
Good luck and have fun, that's what sex is all about.
She said she has already told him that and he doesn't care.
Communication is the key, but to allow a boy friend to practically "wham bam thank you mam" you is crazy.
You need to start having him stop in mid-stream, maybe he'll get the message then.
You have already established a patterned with him, it will be a hard on to break. I hope he's worth it.
he sounds (and if that is your picture, LOOKS like a boy-rather than a caring MAN) I think he is untrained in knowing how to make you feel nice and needs a rude awakening-HE will be worried/upset about YOU using a vibrator???? tell him, would he like to be stimulated to the point just before orgasm and then you walk of EVERY TIME? because that's how YOU feel EVERYTIME!!
use a vibrator, masturbate to your hearts content and tell him if he wont, you WILL have to take care of your needs.
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