My boyfriend and I have been dating now for a year and eight months. I'm in my early twenties, and he's in his early thirties. Our sex lives have changed dramatically since we first started dating (which is normal in every reationship.) When we first started dating we used to have sex all the time, now it's going on seven months and I haven't had any action.

I love my boyfriend to death, so leaving him isn't an option. I've read a numerous amount of postings where the only conclusion was to "leave" the boyfriend. There's more than sex to a relationship. In fact, in our relationship, that's the only thing I'm concerned with. He's still very kind to me, treats me well, cuddles/snuggles me, and still calls me little pet names. I don't feel distant with him at all... It's just the sex.

He was recently diagnosed with prostatitis... Which I'm wondering if that has anything to do with it? Does prostatitis cause a lower sex drive? I've asked him if his conditions have gotten better or stayed the same, and he says that he has mild symptoms now, but it's not as uncomfortable as it was before (due to medication).

I had made a couple of "sexy" gestures before, but got turned down (that was before he was diagnosed with the prostatitis). Because of that, I'm so scared to make a move because I don't want the rejection. I have a low self-esteem as it is. And this whole no-sex thing isn't helping. I'm wondering if maybe he's having a hard time initiating the sex as well beause it has been a while since the either of us have tried to "pursue" one another.

Valentine's Day was very sweet. But he didn't make a move... Even with the whole romantic setting (that I set up). He just fell asleep after dinner, while I was up all night, tossing and turning.

I just want some help. Do you think it's me? The prostatitis? Or could it be that we just need to rekindle the romance in some way...