I've been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs now & living with him for 1. We're both in our mid to later 20s, I'm 26 and he's 28. For about 12 months now he hasn't had an interest in sleeping with me. He's still attentive... wanting to cuddle and sleep close to me, but never wants to have sex. I could probably count on my hands how many times we've been together over the past year. For the first 2 years of the relationship however, we had sex all of the time, and he was always very into it. But that's completely changed. The strange part is that his reasons for not wanting to have sex with me keep changing. At first he said that he wanted to get our relationship back on track with God and that we were only hurting ourselves by sleeping together outside of marriage. But now he says he's just too stressed out with work. I understand that stress can definitely be a factor in a man's libido, and I know that he has a ton of pressure at work as he runs his family's company. But, this is all very strange to me. I've never been with a man that hasn't wanted to sleep with me. I have tried to be understanding, but I'm starting to go crazy. I've tried talking to him about it and he just gets mad and it causes a huge fight. He says that I just don't understand. I feel like I've tried everything... sexy outfits, I've tried starting things, I've pulled away, nothing really worked that well. The only thing that kind of worked is when I pulled away... that helped for about a week.

I am very suspicious by nature, so... naturally I wondered if he was cheating on me. But honestly I don't know how and when he could. We work and live together so it would be hard for him to pull off (but probably not impossible).

It got to a point last week when I started to get extremely upset about the entire situation. It has started to make me feel much less attractive in general. In fact, he actually slipped up several months ago and said that because I wasn't working out enough it actually made him want me less. He denies saying this now... Anyway, I am by no means unattractive (not to sound conceited). I'm 5'4 and weigh 107lbs... with a pretty decent body (not perfect, but not bad!). I get hit on fairly often and again, have never had this problem. I keep trying to build myself up so that I don't get too depressed and continue to have a low self-esteem because of this whole thing. So... a few days ago he caved and tried to sleep with me because he felt bad - and because I made a bargain with him (don't ask - yes I'm bargaining for sex with my boyfriend). It was totally obvious that it was completely out of obligation and to shut me up. He wasn't into it (although he did try) and actually for the first time in the relationship, he lost ability in the middle of sex. I was understanding and didn't really say much besides that it was okay. I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

Now, I'm just not sure how to handle the situation. He already hasn't been understanding about this whole thing and now I'm deathly afraid to bring it up as I don't want to hurt his feelings or start yet another huge fight.

Oh, by the way... he is totally not into porn or anything of the sort (as far as I know... and I know quite a bit). : )

ANY ADVISE? I'd love to know how to handle this from here...