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Chery · Aug 29, 2007, 05:35 AM

Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

Really? Then why are you asking for advice on this problem? You realize that his problem with your curvy figure stems from his mother don't you? If this problem was addressed you would not be having these problems in your relationship. He needs help from a mental health professional. If you are saying there was sexual abuse of some sort he cannot sort that out on his own or with just you.

Still cannot rate..

Glinda, you said it! This young man needs professional help, no matter who he is with in his life, he will still have these 'phobias' unless he works on them.

Bubble.. I don't doubt that he loves you, but you alone cannot help him with this, and he cannot help you with your problems regarding the "ex's" issue. At any rate the choice of what to do with your relationship is yours..

Good Luck.

earl237 · Sep 4, 2007, 03:51 PM

All guys have different preferences. I personally love curvy women with large breasts and wide hips. Believe me, most guys don't like skinny women and you won't have trouble finding a guy who is really into your type.

smoothy · Sep 5, 2007, 06:06 AM

Originally Posted by earl237

All guys have different preferences. I personally love curvy women with large breasts and wide hips. Believe me, most guys don't like skinny women and you won't have trouble finding a guy who is really into your type.

THat depends on your racial background.

Most Blacks and Latinos are into big booties. Most white guys like skinny chicks with big boobs. Not sure what your average Asian is into.

Now there are exceptions in any group. In any case don't waste time on anyone that isn't into what you are, not what you could be with $100K in plastic surgery.

nicespringgirl · Sep 5, 2007, 07:29 AM

Not sure what your average Asian is into.

Asians don't tell you, those asian men just stare at women without saying anything.:D

smoothy · Sep 5, 2007, 07:33 AM

Originally Posted by nicespringgirl

Asians don't tell you, those asian men just stare at women without saying anything.:D

Middle eastern guys like fat women (or just their wives to be fat). I thinks its from insecurity someone might look.

I know one middle eastern guy who's wife was drop dead gorgeous... he wanted her to fatten up about 40 lbs... now she isn't anywhere near as nice looking.

nicespringgirl · Sep 5, 2007, 07:40 AM

Originally Posted by smoothy

Middle eastern guys like fat women (or just their wives to be fat). I thinks its from insecurity someone might look.

I know one middle eastern guy who's wife was drop dead gorgeous....he wanted her to fatten up about 40 lbs...now she isn't anywhere near as nice looking.

Interesting... what do american men think about asian ladies then? Do they feel culture barriers?:rolleyes:

smoothy · Sep 5, 2007, 08:14 AM

Originally Posted by nicespringgirl

Interesting...what do american men think about asian ladies then? Do they feel culture barriers?:rolleyes:

Ooooooooo... Hot , hot hot. I've always had a thing for Asian ladies. Never dated one and being I'm married I don't think I ever will. But I'd say that one is likely less clearly defined as a group. Maybe because I fall in that group so my viewpoints might skew what I see.

LADY_LUV · Sep 10, 2007, 08:54 AM

Girl Move On This Is The First Time I Ever Heard Something Like This. I Didn't Mean Move On If U Luv Him, But Be Straight TELL HIM HEY YOU TOUCH OR SOME ONE ELSE WILL

snotbubble · Sep 15, 2007, 08:23 PM

Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

Really? Then why are you asking for advice on this problem? You realize that his problem with your curvy figure stems from his mother don't you? If this problem was addressed you would not be having these problems in your relationship. He needs help from a mental health professional.

Just because the problem was addressed, it doesn't mean the problem was fixed. He does need professional help, but he can't afford it- we're college students raised by parents that live in the ghetto.

GlindaofOz · Sep 15, 2007, 08:31 PM

If you are in college then heck yes he has access. Every single college in the United States has a mental health counselor on staff that your boyfriend can see for free. Or he can go through your city or county's mental health department for free or low cost (as little as $5) mental health counseling.

snotbubble · Sep 15, 2007, 08:51 PM

Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

If you are in college then heck yes he has access. Every single college in the United States has a mental health counselor on staff that your boyfriend can see for free. Or he can go through your city or county's mental health department for free or low cost (as little as $5) mental health counseling.

I know I get free counseling because I am in a special program, but he only gets the first 5 sessions free and then has to pay for them after that. Even if it was free, I don't think he would want to go.

My sister went to tons of therapists for being suicidal, and I don't think they are very helpful... except for the very few that do their job to help people instead of for the pay check.

Sometimes they can help though. So, I'll look into the counseling thing at school. I've been wanting to go, and ill talk him into it and see what happens.

Papola_de_los · Sep 15, 2007, 09:19 PM

Does he know you are going behind his back and talking about him on here?
Also if you are so insecure around him why don't you just break up with him? He must not care about you too much? In my opinion, if you did love him you would fix these problems with him and not behind his back. Does he not let you fix the problems with him?

my kids · Sep 15, 2007, 09:53 PM

I know how you feel about the being short and weighing 140 lbs and having big boobs you just described me. We have the exact opposite situation my husband loves big boobs and it makes me feel like he likes them because his ex wife has big boobs but we can spend our whole lives asking questions and end up in the same place we started wondering. I feel as If your boyfriend has no confidence and I also say your boobs are yours and that makes it a package deal yea sure you could have a reduction are something like that but you need to be with someone who loves you for you and not because your boobs are big are small.When some one really loves you they don't want to change you they love you for who you are not how they want you to be. So if he said anything else go tell him to find a B cup girl and you will find someone who loves you for who you are.Good luck maybe he's the one who has a problem with his self. I wish you all the best!

smoothy · Sep 17, 2007, 12:50 PM

Simple, if boob size or lack thereof means that much to him, tell him to find someone else. No woman should have a boob augmentation or boob reduction based on what someone else wants. Period.

northwoods57 · Dec 29, 2007, 05:28 PM

There is nothing wrong with your size. Personally I like a woman with curves and C or D cup size. Many women pay big money to get what you have. If your boyfriend does not like them, perhaps he is jealous because of the attention you are getting from other boob men. That's HIS problem, not yours.
Enjoy your assets. If you wear revealing outfits, to get the attention, perhaps covering up might solve part of the problem.
I love it when I go out with a woman that has your size, we tease the crap out of each other.
I love the attention she gets, but always remembering... she is going home with me! And when we make out... I get to... well you know!

Choux · Dec 29, 2007, 08:18 PM

Hm, Are you orgasmic on a regular basis with this boyfriend?

I see a couple of red flags ahead... for example, he doesn't like to have sex when he can see anything?? Red flag two, he doesn't like your breasts.

Have more appreciation for yourself and your physical assets. My advice, get another boyfriend. I'm sure you can do a lot better!

Good Luck!