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My boyfriend does not want to have sex with me but masturbates often.

Asked Jan 4, 2012, 09:43 PM — 23 Answers
I have been with my boyfriend for two years. For the first little while we had sex often. Then all of a sudden he started to make every excuse in the book not to. His back was sore, his hips were sore, his shoulder was sore, and now its his knees.....I am so sick of the excuses, there are a million positions in sex that can be done that could prevent these things from being used. I even ask him if he just wants a blow job and he almost gets mad about it. When I ask him what is going on or tell him I have needs too, we fight about it and he tells me that the more I ask or pressure him the more he doesn't want it. So I don't bring it up for a long time and I still don't get it...I mean there is a month and a half between any kind of sexual anything sometimes. But, I always find his underwear with evidence that he has been having his own kind of fun. And often. He leaves them right on the floor beside the bed..oh and we rarely sleep together now by the way, I have started sleeping in another room because I go crazy laying beside him, wanting him to touch me or if I try to touch him, he says some kind of excuse and then I get mad and go sleep downstairs anyhow.......what do I do?
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Jun 20, 2012, 03:39 PM
my bf doesnt wanna have sex with me. but he jacks off all the time and he said he doesnt think about sex all the time but hes a guy obviously u do u retard. he says im the best thing that every happend but he wont touch me. i tryed to tell him that we need to take a break. mabe it would help out our relationship. but he got mad and blew it off. i dont know what to do anymore? someone plez help
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smoothy (Jun 21, 2012 01:00 PM): Just rude on so many levels   Source:.
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Jun 20, 2012, 04:29 PM
Your language is offensive. Retard? Inexcusable. Jacks off? How old are you?

I'd give him the break, let him get away from you, see if he changes his mind. I'll bet he won't.
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Jun 20, 2012, 04:54 PM
That has to be the most offensive answer I have yet to see here. And the grammar is atrocious.

You need to talk to your boyfriend and see what's missing. There may be nothing wrong at all. Does he just flat out refuse to have any kind of sex with you??
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Jun 20, 2012, 04:56 PM
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Your language is offensive. Retard? Inexcusable.

I'd give him the break, let him get away from you, see if he changes his mind.


He just needs to get away from "that". It's no wonder he doesn't want her. There is no turn off stronger that someone without any tact or sensitivity at all.
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Jun 20, 2012, 05:23 PM
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He just needs to get away from "that". It's no wonder he doesn't want her. There is no turn off stronger that someone without any tact or sensitivity at all.

Note she liked her post enough to repeat it two more times.
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Jun 20, 2012, 05:28 PM
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Note she liked her post enough to repeat it two more times.
LIke they say,,,,Stupid should be painful!!!!
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Jun 21, 2012, 12:53 PM
Its fustrating to c the person i love just change all of a suden. How is he guna tell me that he doesnt think about sex. Which is such crap because he MASTIRBATES is that better. A lot. Its fustrating becouse im trying to c how we can fix it. And he keeps insisting there is nothing wrong. Ive never done this so i dont really know how to use this web site. I thought this site would
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Jun 21, 2012, 12:58 PM
[quote=reyna10vikkie;3162257]Its fustrating to c the person i love just change all of a suden. How is he guna tell me that he doesnt think about sex. Which is such crap because he MASTIRBATES is that better. A lot. Its fustrating becouse im trying to c how we can fix it. And he keeps insisting there is nothing wrong. Ive never done this so i dont really know how to use this web site. I thought this site would help. I guess o gota be the bigger person and just break it off
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Jun 21, 2012, 01:02 PM
Please - see instead of c. No text speak. Text speak makes you sound like a kid, not an adult.

If you can't live with his behavior, yes, your only choice is to break off the relationship.
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Jun 21, 2012, 01:02 PM
I'm not suprised......based on your other previous posts....why he would rather use his hand than you.....ever hear the terms grace and tact before? Its obvious you put him off, he just isn't upset enough to walk away for good yet.
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