My boyfriend can't stay hard during sex

Originally Posted by SimpleguyJoe

Ok well I just read through this entire thread and this boyfriend of yours seems to have a few problems the first being he seems to have a degree of PE but its nothing he can't get over.
Just don't fret about it because it will only make it worse for him and many guys at this age have this problem. There are several things he needs to do.
1. For guys who can't last long for any reason have him look up keggels they have helped me, somewhat, except the first few times I've had sex I've always been able to last at least 10-30 minutes not to mention you can always go again and the key to that will be #2
2. Have him explore your body a little more if he can find ways to really pleasure you besides out of sexual intercourse it will boost his self confidence, because what you really want to do is get his mind off the negative path he is driving down, associating sex with a ton of negative emotions like anxiety. Discomfort, anger (From you because he goes to fast.) because once you guys can get past some of this and he can finally give you at least one mind blowing session of love making things will get better a lot faster. It won't be a miracle cure for his problem but if you can even get the ball rolling then things will improve a lot faster.

And for you.
You love the guy right? So act like it, he is not a pornstar and he is also relatively new to sex and guys have to learn to control their orgasms just like some woman have to learn to actually even have one. Absolutely support him with everything you have, and be happy about it. If he even senses that your not having a good time he is going to associate sex with negative thoughts and emotions and that won't solve anything thing not to mention work against both of you. Just remember explore, explore, explore were all a bunch of young people so find out what really turns each other on and you can use that if he ever loses his erection. Sex can be one of the most fun and fulfilling acts you can do in if your in the right state of mind and your both ready for it. On the other hand it can be equally unsatisfactory and un-nerving for all parties involved if your not willing to find and fix all the kinks us young people have in sex.

Also please make sure he is not comparing himself with his guy friends stories and internet porn and other media because for 1. His friends are mostly just buffing up their own sexual conquests and any portion of it is probably exaggerated 2. Porn is the higher end of the performance chart those guys are picked for a reason. 3. Media that tells him sure ways to get better and media that puts a big performance burden on him. Just be with your guy enjoy each others company during any kind of sex and try to lighten the mood for him for awhile. Good luck and god bless.