so here is the deal... im 24 years old...my bf and i have been together for almost 2 years...he is my first real boyfriend and he was also the first person i ever had sex with... it used to be great, really amazing but for a couple of months now we have been barely having sex at all... he wanted to have a threesome and i kinda hooked up with a girl infront ofhim , thiking it will make him be more attracted to me....after that hapeed we only had sex once and its been like a month since that happened....i know im not an ugly girl, even though i might be 10 pounds overweight...people still find me attractive... i just feel disgusting and not attractive at all i any way.. i cry constantly because i get sooo frustrated everytime i try to initiate sex with him and he rejects me..... he says it isnt me .. that he just needs some time and that he loves me....i dont even know what to believe anymore... because i feel like .... i thought if someone loves you ,a way of showing that love is through sex....i dont know.....should i wait ??... should i just break up with him?..... help....

Sentra

There's more than one way to show love, make sure that sex isn't TOO high on the priority list, then try having a talk with him. Make sure he understands exactly how you feel, so that he knows his rejection is making you feel insecure.

Steady52

I think you should dump him,he's probably seeing someone else.This is just what I think. He is probably too immature for you anyways.Good luck

velvetjones

Ditch 'em. You're young and have your whole life ahead of you

J_9

Yup ditch him. A lot of the time that a couple engages in a threesome there is already trouble. Once the threesome occurs, you can never go back to where you were before.

Time to find someone who will like you for you.

talaniman

So everything changed after he saw you with another girl at his request? This is not a threesome if he didn't participate. Is he still making kinky requests of you?

alfonsina7

well he liked it.. he did not ahve sex with her and wwe didnt do that much as for the threesome.. so idk.. i dont think its that.. i actual;ly asked him today he told me i was beautiful and that it had nothiong to do with me...but i still feel bad ... he even told me that he only masturbated once this past month.. that he doesnt feel sexual.... is there such a thing with guys?? i thought guys were always down for sex... i mean we used to ahve good sex.. i dont understand...

talaniman

What kind of meds or drugs does he take if any and yes it happens to us sometimes for various reasons.

alfonsina7

no meda ... he smokes pot.. idk if that has anything to do with it

Sentra

Some guys are sensitive when confronted on their 'dry spells'. Despite what I have already posted, here is what I really think:

1) Only leave him if there is proper motive.
2) If you keep trying to talk to him about it more and more, he can become discouraged.
3) If you don't want to be with him anymore because you think he's ignoring you or doesn't want you anymore, honey just let him know. The longer you wait...is wrong.
4) He could be dealing with a personal issue that he doesn't have the courage to come right out and talk about just yet.
5) Guys that age are highly prone to 'dry spells'.
6) Stress, work, a multitude of problems can be to blame, but don't ever start blaming yourself.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-2659.html

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relat...ngsexdrive.htm

http://www.askmen.com/love/dzimmer_6...e_answers.html

I hope these help!!