i was wondering if they have some kind of pill that can increse my sex drive. I'm 26 years old married and i only have sex less than once a month.

Synnen

There are so many factors that go into sex drive that the short answer is "No".

the long answer involves a trip to your physician.

Are you physically fit? Exercise regularly? Eat healthy? How is your relationship? Do you masturbate? Do you orgasm when you DO have sex? What is your relationship history? Is there any history of abuse for you? Do you do drugs or drink alcohol on a regular basis?
These questions and more need answering before someone could HOPE to tell you whether or not it's just biochemical for you, or whether it's something that may require counseling, or whether you just need to stop doing a different activity that's bad for you.

Choux

Are you a man or a woman? That information would help me fashion an answer.

danielcarrei7

i'm a female

ConfusedInAK

As a person with an incredibly low sex drive who has gone through all the hullaballoo of blood testing etc., I can't say that I have found anything!

It started after my 2nd child and they tested everything. From what my last doctor told me, sometimes your sex drive just goes away. Now after my 4th kid, I have no desire at all

In my case, I never even think about it anymore, except for the fact that I think about why I don't think about it.

Do you have children? Apparently a hormonal imbalance after having kids can cause this as well as stress, weight gain and depression..... but there are other things that can cause it too.

Ask your doctor about herbal products (there are teas and pill forms) that "increase your libido". They work for some people.

Herbs to Increase Woman's Libido.

But like I said check with your doctor before you start taking herbs. They can mess with any Rx you may be on.

Choux

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your sex drive. What is life without pleasure?

Perhaps it would be a good idea for you to keep a daily journal of emotions...write down your feelings and what is triggering you. A journal will tell you so much about yourself like is someone being abusive to you...do you ever have any positive impulses....are you overwhelmed....are you depressed....do you feel better when you go shopping or exercise....and so on.

After a month, make an appointment with your physician so you can talk over your problem and help her understand because you have a *record* of your emotions and relevant actions.

She may refer you to a specialist along with your partner, or something entirely different.


Best wishes in 2008.

kp2171

more info needed about whats going on. you want to increase your drive. why? for your lover? for yourself? whats your experience during sex? any pleasure? to orgasm? have you had this with other lovers? etc.... dont be shy here... the more you talk, the more we can understand your situation.

and as stated throughout the above posts, first thing is to approach this through the kinds of things you can "correct" yourself, both physically and mentally. if i had to summarize what optimizes a healthy sex life, its the same thing that makes for a healthy overall life: balanced living.

my drive is stronger when i regularly work out. my self esteem is improved when im fit and my body is simply more driven in all areas of my life, including the bedroom. good sleep and good nutrition also can make a difference. and reducing all kinds of stressors such as anxiety, depression, stress, smoking, drug use, smoking, etc...

so... are you active? are you healthy? are you on meds? do you smoke or drink often? are you getting good sleep? are you anxious, depressed, or stressed? what is your relationship with your lover? is he giving? does he take time to sensitize you? can you reach orgasm with regularity when you do have sex? do you self stimulate? have you experienced lower drives before? have you ever really enjoyed sex? any bad experiences in the past concerning sex?

lots of things to answer... most of which were already asked in one form or another.

get back to us.

danielcarrei7

i feel since i had my first child my body isn't the same and i don't really feel comfortable
naked. my partner i've been with for 9 years on and off both being unfaithful sometimes i also think about that although we have moved on from the past i still haven't forgot he isn't really loveable it seems only when he wants something and he always complaining about it. during the beginning of our relationship sex was regular then it just seem to go down hill. when we were on our break i met someone that i always wanted to have sex with so maybe i just not me maybe the past with his unfaithfulness,emotional abuse(which sometimes is still happening)and some physical abuse. i do love him and when been faithful and a family ever since we decided to have a baby, but is a big problem in the relationship and i want to fix it.

huntertrin

I think your partners and your unfaithfulness makes you really insecure about having sex with this man again. Does he want to have sex ?