This text information was obtained on the husbands cell phone which I guess he is extremely possessive over. Wife was looking at the new phone and found it...apparently she was in the bathroom and he was pounding on the door demanding for his phone.

This is the text talk:

"Pusa!" - Sister (European background but it mean's nothing in that language could it me a more derogative term for a female organ?"

"Dreaming of you sexy (blush happy face)" - Husband

"When can I see you next sexy?" - Husband

"Right now would be the best..." - Sister

"Miss my touch?" - Husband

"ARE YOU OFFERING ME A SENSUAL OASIS SPA?" - Sister

"What are our past experiences? (Happy face with a wink) - Husband

NO RESPONSE

After he took the phone from the bathroom he erased it all. Then was being nice...note that the sister was always giving gifts to the sister of the husbands wife and the wife was confiding in her about their relationship dilemma's. Also note that the husband comes home Wednesday nights (his only night out I guess) anywhere from 2 a.m. on. I guess one night he didn't come home at all and said he was sleeping in his vehicle...he returned the phone call at 4:30 a.m. saying this...even though the wife called twice after 2 a.m. He also becomes very upset when having to explain himself and his Dad (whom which he is with playing darts admits that they go home at 10:30 - 11:00 p.m.) say's he doesn't know because husband says he is going home but never ends up being there when he should.

Sister that is involved in these texts has lived and had a sexual relationship with her first cousin; has many problems with her current common-law boyfriend. Husband came in for moral support and their marriage is pretty rocky with kids and finances. Sister is always about meeting a guy that will provide and care for her. She also has a really close relationship with her sister. It's really bugging me and I would hate to see this happen to anyone.

Please give your advice.

Synnen

I'm confused---who is this happening to?

If I didn't know you better, Aprilwine, I'd think you were a troll pulling our legs---but I DO know you better, and I'm wondering what's up with this?

xoxaprilwine

Actually this is really bugging me...I can't sleep...help!

simoneaugie

He may well be cheating on her with her sister.

You can't fix it though. You can be a more clear-minded friend if you're rested. It can affect you if you let it, but it ain't your stuff. Go to sleep!

Synnen

oh it's HER sister.

I totally read that thinking it was HIS sister, and we were looking at incest here.

Look, if it were me, I'd confront them both, tell them about the texts I saw, and let them know that they're BOTH on warning---and that if either of them denied what I saw, or refused to work on regaining my trust, that I'd be MORE than happy to cut one or both of them from my life, and take the kids with me.

I'd be calm and collected about it---but I wouldn't be accepting of excuses, either. Just straight up "This is what I saw, I don't think it can be interpreted any other way, and I'm upset that the two of you would do this to me. I'd prefer if your texts/emails/calls/whatever to each other stopped, and that the two of you are not alone together"

Fur will fly, but if it's handled that way, then at least it's not the wife that looks bad.

ZoeMarie

OOOR, he has someone else's number saved in his phone under someone's sister's name so if that name appears in the calls list it doesn't look suspicious. Just an idea.

liz28

Sounds like they both are up to no good and have been doing something behind your back.

smoothy

WHOS sister the naughty talk was with, his sister or her sister, or was it a sister-in-law. It wasn't clear to me when I read this.

If it was HIS sister...Ewwwwwwwww.

If it was her sister, shame, shame shame....you don't poop in your own back yard. Did they actually believe they could get away with something so close to home for long?

lighterrr

the whole set up seems suspicious to me, i would wait and watch and not worry to much

bronzebabe