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It is a play on words, I doubt if he had to do the anal sex he would be as fast to think it was a good idea, but then differnt things floats everyones boat.
But it may be different feel, a matter of control, something he was told in early life is a goal. his reason is his reason, why not ask, couples should be free to talk about thier sexual interest
Is he wanting you to do him or is he wanting to do you....
Many women (and I guess some guys as well if that floats their boat) not only like it but grow to love it if he's gentle enough while you learn to control what was basically involuntarily controlled mussels.
You can't just jump into it will both feet so to speak.
A lot of men get the idea of anal sex from porn. There are many porno's out there that glorify anal penetration and if a man gets this in his head then sometimes he wants to try it. I mean, the women in the porns like it so why shouldn't his woman?!!! I also think that to some men it's so much safer, as a woman can't really get pregnant from anal sex. It's also risque (sp?---as in something not everyone does) so it's kind of uncharted territory. I have been with my husband for 6 years and he asks me all the time and i tell him it's not something i'm into. He understands.
Back during the Greek and Roman times anal sex was rampant. Between men and boys, men and women, it really didn't matter. It's not all a new thing, it goes way back. Spartan warriors would have anal sex with the little boys that were recruited for the army. This was seen as a way to get close to their fellow warriors. the closer you are to your fellow warriors, the more "together" things will be on the battle field.
Anal sex is not easily attainable. The man MUST go very slow and lube must be used. This is not a hole that things are used to going IN to. Those muscles are going to need to be relaxed before anything can happen.
You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do or don't believe in. Talk with him about it and let him know how you feel. If you are considering it, talk it over together about how to do it, and maybe do some research on what to do and not to do.
Also, there are many health risks associated with anal sex. I think you should be aware of them. Aids can be passed through this kind of sex. Many other diseases as well. You also don't want to go from anal to vaginal without cleaning because infections can arise.
I guess in short I am trying to say that ultimately if you want to do it it's your choice, it's not painless by ANY means and it's also not safer than vaginal (minus the pregnancy thing). Make sure you use something to suction all the "stuff" out before penetration. Use a condom to help avoid infections and diseases but be aware that protection can't completely prevent anything. If you don't like it, don't do it.
Well in this particular case its a man and wife.....assuming neither is fooling around or has something then there is nothing to give the others...
Once she (or he) learns the mussel control use enough lube and start off easy and slow then yes it can be totally painless. It doesn't have to hurt.
If you do it no less than an hour after a complete bowel movement, or up to 2 hours after there won't be any surprises. Use a condom if there either of you has issues....
And of course like was mentioned...once you move to the butt, you might as well finish up there as you don't want a nasty infection from displaced bacteria....
Don't want to scare he from something she might grow to enjoy once she learns to do it right. But do it only after you are ready.....a good rule of thumb. Start with fingers....one at the beginning then two....when you get to three you can deal with the average guys penis. If he bears a strong resemblance to the late John Holmes....then thats a whole different thing.
If you aren't married then you really don't know where they have been for the last several years then it is risky as its the easiest way to get AIDS from someone that you really don't know as well as you should before being intimate.
I just wanted to make her aware of all the issues. Hopefully she can make her husband aware too if he is not already. Once you get used to it, it won't be painful...but there is a LOT of pain initially. Smoothy makes good points as do i. Just be careful and talk it through thoroughly.
Being the recipipent of a penis in your rectum is something you *DON'T HAVE TO DO*. It just isn't healthy, mentally or physically.
He should be looking for ways to **PLEASE** you, not for ways to experiment his favorite porn positions on his life partner!! There are plenty of other enjoyable ways to express sexuality....
thank you for all comments he did it one time for his joy only not mine its some thing i dont feel comfortable and its lots of pain i refuse it at first than he said just to try for 1 time than he keept asking for it .
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