Anal Sex

Hello Home:

I figured with my name, somebody would bring that up. I said above that I haven't been, and that's true.

But, there's more to the story. I'm not a homosexual. I'm not interested in some dude corn holing me. I DO however, along with my lady, have a very sensitive and erogenous anus. I LOVE it when she licks me. I love it when she uses her fingers during vaginal sex.

However, we've never gone further than that. Chalk it up to whatever you want to chalk it up to. But, in the right circumstance, with the right girl, I think I could enjoy getting screwed by her strap on.

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I was not refereing to your name nor was I questioning your sexual experiences. My point was until you have had an erected penis up your behind, how can you tell a female, "it does not hurt a bit"

I think that you could probably tell by now that I'm a woman--but just in case--I'm DEFINITELY a woman.

I like anal sex. I used to not--but then I found out that it was my partner that was the problem, not me.

Now that I've had partners that know how to do it right, there's no WAY I would leave anal sex out of our repetoire. Because--when it's done right--it is JUST as pleasurable as vaginal sex.

However--to cover Homegirl's point too--at 18, you shouldn't have to do anything you don't like just to make a guy happy. Screw that (or don't, in this case). There are better uses for your time and energy. If you WANT to do it, to make him happy, that's different. Use a LOT of lube, take your time, start with fingers, and go slow. I find that a lot of playing with the nipples and clitorus (basically a lot of foreplay) makes it fun, and believe it or not, I'm usually asking for it by the time it happens.

"pain" is interpreted differently in different situations by different people. For ex, hit a guy in the sack while he's walking along and you "rack" him... Hurts like hell. But during sex the same stimulation is interpreted as pleasure... One of the reasons why guys like coming from behind. Sounds silly, but when the "boys" slap against the woman that same "pain" is now pleasure. Its all in the mindset. Likewise, nipple stimulation, at the right time, in the right mindset can send a woman over the top. Do it at the wrong time and my parter will smack you upside the head.

As for anal sex, I've been with women who were at the extremes. One who loved it (when done "properly") and one who wouldn't ever do it, and most in the ive-tried-it-and-dont-like-it category.

The one who enjoyed it self stimulated while received anal, and as long as she could physically and mentally relax, especially in the first few minutes, she was fine.

I think a guys wanting it is common. I think a woman's not wanting it is common. And like any sexual practice, you shouldn't do what you are uncomfortable with. And like any sexual practice, education about what can make it better and safer is key.

Trauma to the anus can be real... Those who enjoy anal sex attempt to avoid this my going slow and making sure the woman is mentally and physically able to relax the muscles. Women who aren't prepared mentally are perhaps unlikely and unable to have safe, painless anal sex.

One primary medical study I read cited that there was, in this study, a measurable difference in the strength of rectal contraction among persons who received anal sex versus those who did not. Key is, they found statistical evidence to say, yes, anal sex can lead to fecal incontenance in persons engaged in anal sex... But it didn't lead to it in all persons engaged... That there were persons who were receiving anal sex who also had just as strong contractions as those who didn't and who had no issues.

Childbirth, for ex, can commonly do a lot of damage to the muscle wall, and incontinence from this isn't uncommon.

So... Like I said, his wanting it isn't uncommon, your not wanting it isn't uncommon. I consider this one of those areas where isn't a lot of middle ground. If you aren't interested and aren't comfortable, it probably isn't for you and that's that.

I assure you that the act of heterosexual anal sex has been around way before the introduction of porn

I disagree strangely. This is a sure fire way to offend 95% of straight men. "responding to the you try it approach

I don't know why they'd be offended, they don't seem to have problem going through the back door with her.
I don't want no man telling me it won't hurt or will feel good unless he has been screwed himself. But no matter either way, it's not happening with me.

You probably already know this, but keep plenty of lube on hand and make him reach around for some clitoral stimulation. That's what the woman I've been with made me do.